Have you ever heard anyone describe marriage as easy? Probably not. Most people will tell you that marriage is work but is there a difference between that and tolerating a marriage?
My current guest, Sandy was married for twenty-three long years, many years spent trying to make it work and many years spent tolerating it. Here's Sandy:
A lot of my marriage was tolerating.
A close … [Continue reading...]
Extramarital affairs are not unusual - one or both spouses admit to infidelity, either physical or emotional in forty-one percent of marriages.* Almost a third of those marriages do survive. No statistics on this but I believe emotional affairs can be as damaging as physical affairs.
Following the advice of a lawyer-friend, the goal of my current guest, Sandy had been to stay married until her … [Continue reading...]
Asking yourself if you should stay married for the sake of your children is typical for anyone whose marriage is faltering. It's certainly a question about which most people have an opinion.
Today, I'd like to introduce you to Sandy Weiner who was married for twenty-three years. Three of those years were spent getting divorced (!) and seven of them were spent tolerating the marriage for their … [Continue reading...]
There's no shortage of advice about dating after divorce and while some of it is contradictory, most experts agree that if you want to avoid making the same choices again, then it's crucial to do your self-work before committing to a new relationship. There are rewards for doing that work:
It's wonderfully reassuring that there are fabulous people out there to partner up with. If you really … [Continue reading...]
Just Say 'I Do'
by Margaret W. Miller
The emotional burden of planning and paying for a wedding is massive -- even happily married couples find it enormously stressful. Divorced couples may find the process so upsetting that they'll want to divorce their ex-spouse all over again. But as someone who’s recently been through this experience, I can promise that it doesn’t have to be as … [Continue reading...]
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Under certain circumstances you may qualify for the nullification of your marriage, removing all history of your marriage to reflect its invalidity. If you are considering a divorce but are not … [Continue reading...]
By T. Brandon Jaynes
What is family?
In the family law context, defining what makes up a “family” is getting harder and harder to do.
Grandparents are raising children, so are aunts and uncles; sometimes, even, stepmom or stepdad attempt to get custody of children. Sometimes a married man will have an affair and “the other woman” will end up pregnant; likewise, a married woman will … [Continue reading...]
When you're struggling with your own marriage it's very tempting to look at other couples and think they have it all figured out and even to wish your own marriage was more like theirs. The problem with that however is you have no idea what the marriage is really like. What's visible on the outside is often very different from the what's going on inside:
Sex started changing, he was angry a lot … [Continue reading...]
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