Finding Love Offline

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When it comes to dating after divorce, you have to be in a dating state of mind. It’s unrealistic to expect your next long term partner to suddenly, magically appear on your door step but the good news is that plenty of people do fall in love again and go on to enjoy richly-rewarding, loving relationships. [...]

Love The Second Time Around

Dating after divorce is about what's right for you

Sooner or later any conversation about divorce turns to the question of dating after divorce. One of the hottest topics is when to start dating. Opinions vary widely on this ranging from not until at least a year after your divorce to once you have the time and you’re ready. My present guest, Helen started [...]

The Art of Enjoying Life

Women often go on a search to find themselves after divorce

The aftermath of divorce is often a frenzy of activity – some of it related to children, some of it self-imposed medication against the hurt and some of it caused by the rush to a new life. In this guest post, author Abbey Algiers shares her discovery of the beauty in slowing down. Abbey is [...]

The Best Sex Of Your Life

Sex can still be good in midlife

Whenever the topic of dating after divorce comes up, so does sex.  While some separated couples continue to have sex, for the overwhelming majority of people I’ve interviewed by the time divorce was on the horizon, sex with their spouse happened rarely if ever and if it did happen it wasn’t very satisfying. And that [...]

Learning to Speak Up For Yourself

Are you making yourself heard?

Speaking up for yourself is essential for self-care but many of us learn in childhood that doing so can mean penalties, such as the loss of a friendship or being the object of teasing. Sometimes, making yourself heard is such a competition you decide not to compete. Either way it involves a decision at some [...]

Who Pays On First Dates?

Who pays on the first date?

Whenever the topic of dating after divorce comes up, so does the question of who pays. More specifically, who pays on the first date. I’m a little confused by this myself which is probably why I like to ask my interviewees for their philosophy. It’s not a clear cut issue for me but more about [...]

Use Your Job Hunting Skills For Dating

Use your job hunting skills for dating

I’ve said it before. Dating after divorce is scary. It’s scary because none of us were born knowing how to date. Some people seem to learn quickly and are adept daters by their early twenties. Others, and this includes yours truly, never feel particularly skilled and then after years of marriage are at loss as [...]

Are You Open To Love?

Finding love after divorce means being open to love

Dating after divorce is scary – it takes courage to open yourself up and to be vulnerable. It takes courage to accept the possibility that you will again experience heartbreak. But there’s no getting around it, if you want to find a partner, find your true love, then you have to be courageous. My present [...]

Ready To Date

Dating is about meeting people

When it comes to dating after divorce, people often want to know when’s the right time to start. My response is, “Whenever you feel ready,”  and when you’re ready you’ll know. There’s little point in pinning the start of dating to an event such as the date you separated or the date your divorce was [...]

Waiting to Date After Divorce

Dating after divorce is about being you being ready.

Based on my own experience, dating after divorce is about time and timing. When it’s right for you, you’ll know. While my guest Debbi Dickinson recommends her clients wait a year before dating after divorce, I’ve interviewed people who have started dating sooner than that and found that dating was part of their healing process. My present guest, [...]