Fit4Love: How A Dating Coach Helped Me

Beign ready to date

Yay! I am now a graduate of the Fit4Love dating coaching program and I think I am the perfect poster child for this course. While I’ve only been on one date, I feel so prepared and confident which is definitely NOT how I felt when I started this back in August. More specifically: I’ve stopped […]

Fit4Love: Online Dating Strategy

For the benefit of new readers, I’m currently participating in a one-on-one dating advice coaching program called Fit4Love. It’s ten sessions which in my case have been spread out since early September. I’m on session nine and my coach, Sheila Paxton did spend a quite some time preparing me for my first, first date. If […]

Fit4Love: The First First Date

Coffee is a safe, easy first date

Well, dear readers … after three months of dating advice and preparation through the Fit4Love dating advice program, I have been on my first, first date in over twenty-four years! Fanfare please! It was pleasant, enjoyable and no where near as intimidating as I imagined. Getting Introduced I met my date through a friend. She […]

Fit4Love: Practicing Dating Skills


Relationship Skills I’m getting close to the end of my Fit4Love coaching program and even though I am feeling much more prepared for dating than I was, I know there are a few areas in which I’m still feeling very uncertain and my last online assignment was right on target. For this exercise, I had […]

Fit4Love: Getting to Know eHarmony

In my last post about my Fit4Love dating advice coaching program, I shared that I’d decided online dating was definitely an approach worth trying. Well readers, I can now tell you that I am registered with eHarmony, my profile is live and I’ve spent a fair amount of time over Thanksgiving trying to figure out […]

Fit4Love: Starting Online Dating

Dating advice: Starting online dating

One of the many aspects of the Fit4Love coaching program that I like is that it’s leading me to my goal at my own pace and it isn’t one-size fits all dating advice. Joining Meetup groups might work for some but I just don’t have time like that. I need to be more focused, more […]

Fit4Love: Making Time for Dating

I read a dating advice article recently that basically said dating after divorce is about time, that is knowing when the time is right to start dating and having the time to date. I know I’m on track with the first part but it’s the second element that’s been testing me this week. I did […]

Fit4Love: Time to Socialize

Dating Advice: It's just coffee not a marriage proposal

I’m currently participating in Fit4Love which is a dating advice program with one-on-one coaching from Sheila Paxton. So far I’ve been brushing up on my flirting skills, affirming my strengths and deciding my top ten values but I haven’t been on a date yet. Since we’re more than halfway through the program, and with hints […]

Fit4Love: Identifying Your Values

Dating advice: identify your values

I haven’t tried online dating. I almost did once but then I started to look at the profile and I panicked. I couldn’t think how I’d respond to some of the questions and I was worried that what I would write would be too boring for anyone to be interested in me. Isn’t that awful? […]

Fit4Love: Know Your Strengths

I’m currently participating in a one-on-one dating advice coaching program, Fit4Love and Sheila Paxton is my personal coach. The goal of the program is to prepare me to start dating, for me to feel confident about dating and to enjoy dating. We’re not even halfway through the program and I’m already feeling much more comfortable […]