Wisdom From Divorce: Would You Get Married Again?

Even before the divorce is final many people already have an opinion about getting married again ... If I could do it, I would just like to be a strong, single woman for the rest of my life. I would just like to have a few intimate male friends that I see every now and then. I'd like to feel that I don't have to settle down with one man. Cathy was with her husband for … [Read more...]

Wisdom From Divorce: The Pain Of Never Having Children

Deciding to end a troubled marriage is agonizing and it can be even harder when it likely means you'll never the children you always wanted. I just didn't feel this was a marriage I wanted to bring kids into although I wanted kids. I haven't had kids and I'm not going to have to kids because I'm fifty now. There'll probably be forever some wounds around not having kids. Sally … [Read more...]

Staying Safe Is The Top Priority

Don't disregard abusive phone calls from your STBX

We all like to think we truly know our spouses and know how they will behave but unfortunately that's not always the case. Divorce has a tendency to bring out the worst behavior. Sometimes it's an isolated incident but other times it reveals very serious, even dangerous personality disorders. My current guest, Tina Swithin initially had a nesting arrangement with her STBX … [Read more...]

Wisdom From Divorce: No Avoiding the Worst Jobs After Divorce

Antonia Ragozzino wrote a fiction book, Taking Out The Trash based on her experience of life after divorce: I was twenty-eight when my husband left me on Thanksgiving weekend. He used to take the trash out and I literally hated taking out the trash. I had this big beautiful house, this big long driveway and every Thursday night it was either sleeting or snowing and I would cry … [Read more...]

I Don’t Need a Man To Be Happy

Living singly can be a rich and rewarding life

When I asked my current guest, Rhoda what was the most significant lesson she'd learned from her divorce she said, "...that I don't need a man to be happy." It seems such a simple answer yet it speaks to something I think many of us struggle with living in this very coupled culture. Here's Rhoda: [contemplate1]Probably the biggest thing I’ve learned is that I don’t have to … [Read more...]