Playing at your husband’s game

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After Nancy confronted her husband about his secret fetish, she was feeling hurt and rejected. She couldn’t understand why he would prefer to look at women on the internet over being intimate with her. She was angry, she wanted to teach him a lesson. I think she was also trying to save her marriage. Here’s [...]

Confronting your husband

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In the first post with my current guest, Nancy, she talks about how she discovered her husband’s sexual fetish, something he had kept hidden from her during their long marriage. It was a startling discovery for Nancy who was left feeling it was her fault. She knew the standard advice for saving your marriage but [...]

Discovering your husband’s secret fetish

I’m starting a new series today and would like to introduce you to Nancy. Nancy lives in England although she’s originally from Brazil. She went to England for a couple of months back in 1988 and ended up staying after she met the man who would become her husband. Officially, she’s been married for twenty [...]

The divorce was not about me

When Judy talked about coming home to an empty house after twenty-eight years of marriage, she said she knew all along it wasn’t about her. She always felt that her husband’s decision to leave was related to his mental illness, issues that he needed to work on but chose not to. Here’s Judy: My husband [...]

Five minutes to change a marriage

Today, I’d like to introduce you to Suzanne who goes by @ADivorcedMom on Twitter and blogs about divorce, debt and finances at Care One Credit. Suzanne was just 20 when she got married. After six years, she felt she was thinking about divorce but wasn’t sure if it was the right decision. Then, as her [...]

Leap and the net will appear

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Jenni came out of rehab in late 2007. It was almost another year before she found the courage to leave her marriage. There were two incidents that told Jenni enough was enough. Here’s Jenni: There were many fights but I remember one big one when he woke me up at 5:30 in the morning. We [...]

Could things get any worse?

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As others have said, infidelity doesn’t have to mean divorce and Debbie, despite feeling that her marriage was unraveling, wanted to work on it. At this point she knew her husband had cheated with both men and women but had no idea there was also child abuse. Here’s Debbie as she explains what happened next: [...]

A marriage unravels

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Today, I’m starting a new series with Debbie who blogs at My Everyday Journey. Debbie is a lifestyle blogger, blogging about things like her son’s first day back at school, their summer vacation – everyday events that single moms like you and me deal with all the time, except that Debbie’s story isn’t an everyday [...]

There’s no fixing this marriage

Susan was with her husband for 22 years and separated five years ago at the of age 47. Her husband battled combat PTSD from Vietnam and brain injuries following car accidents in 2000 and 2003. Clearly, the marriage had had it difficulties and stresses for a number of years and Susan started to recognize it [...]

Do you choose drugs or our marriage?

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When April (@aprilabtbalance) left a comment here a few months ago that she had made a conscious decision after her divorce that she wasn’t going to date, I knew, in this age of online dating, I had to talk to her. Our interview started with April sharing that although she and her ex were together [...]