When Your Wife Says I Want A Divorce

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When your spouse says, “I want a divorce” it can be shocking and painful even if you’ve been talking with each other about ending your marriage or if you’ve been quietly considering it. My current guest Bill was married for twenty-three years. With the strain of the failure of his wife’s business, her bad money […]

Is Your Spouse Getting Into Debt?

Is your spouse getting into debt?

Differences over money management styles are a common factor in many divorces and it’s not unusual to discover your spouse getting into debt without your knowledge. My current guest, Bill was married for twenty-three years and money troubles definitely factored into their divorce. His wife had started her own business but when that needed more […]

Whose Fault Is Divorce?

Whose fault is divorce

When you’re trying to make sense of the end of your marriage, you might ask, “Whose fault is divorce?” but it really isn’t that simple. Today, I’d like to introduce you to my next guest, Bill who is a longtime supporter of this blog. Bill and his wife were married for 23 years and had […]

Infidelity: It’s About Them Not You

Extramarital affairs are painful and challenging to understand

Many couples have to confront infidelity – one or both spouses admit to infidelity either physical or emotional in forty-one percent of marriages. It’s always painful and hurtful. Reconciliation is possible with hardwork. Without the hard, honest work the infidelity may continue and the relationship issues will undoubtedly continue. My current guest, Candi was married […]

When You Can Finally Leave Your Marriage

If you make a plan, you will be able to leave your marriage.

Some marriages do seem to explode overnight but many divorces don’t happen suddenly. They are years in the making. Sometimes the plan to leave is quite specific and detailed. Other times there may still be a plan but it’s more milestone driven such as when the kids have left home or when the debt has […]

Is Your Spouse Taking You Seriously When You Say You Want A Divorce?

Your spouse may be in denial about divorce

Despite ongoing discussions, some spouses are genuinely surprised when their partner announces that the marriage is over and they want a divorce. To the spouse who made the decision, this seems incredulous and unbelievable. How could their spouse have a completely opposite view on something that was so obvious to them?  My current guest, Candi […]

The Difference Between Wanting To Leave And Being Able To Leave Your Marriage

There's a difference between wanting to leave your marriage and being able to leave

A common misunderstanding about divorce is around timing. People often assume that because they’ve concluded their marriage is over, starting the legal process is the next step. It’s not. The next step is about being ready and able to leave. Sometimes that can take a few weeks, sometimes a few months and for some, it can […]

5 Tips To Preparing Your Separation Agreement

Having a formal agreement during your marital separation is smart

Guest post by Brandon Bernstein A separation agreement is a legally-binding contract between two spouses which dictates an array of chiefly financial terms and obligations when a couple agrees to live separately. This most commonly precedes a divorce, but that’s not always the case, either. While a separation agreement is never a legal requirement for […]

Don’t Let Your Spouse Define Who You Are

Divorce will impact your self-esteem

Defining your self-worth or tying your self-esteem to your spouse makes confronting a troubled marriage even more difficult. Sometimes, working on your self-esteem first will give you the courage to address your marriage while other times, divorce will force you. My current guest, Carol Round was married for 28 years and has been divorced now […]

Do You Just Want Out From Your Marriage?

Ending your marriage is easier when you're willing to walk away

Negotiating your financial settlement with your STBX can be stressful, upsetting and just plain difficult but there’s one thing you can do that may make it easier. Ask yourself, what is it that you’re willing to walk away from? Regardless of the law, regardless of what you might be ‘entitled’ to, what is it that […]