Wisdom From Divorce: Were You Meant To Be Single?

When some people get divorced it makes them question the whole concept of marriage. It might even have you wondering if you were always meant to be single: I know blended families work for some people but I look at the problems they have and I don’t want to ever deal with that. I feel […]

Having The Best Stuff Is Not What’s Important

There’s always less money after divorce. Adjusting to the new reality is not just about cutting back on your spending. It’s about embracing that having the best stuff is not what’ s important in life: Financially, it was very tight but that was OK. What’s more important is authenticity and putting that value on living […]

Wisdom From Divorce: Discovering What Life’s Really About

There are no guarantees in life. We all know that and that ‘s perhaps why sometimes we cling so hard to what we know. Yet, sometimes it’s letting go of everything that leads to discovering what life’s really about: On a good note, I’m now happily in love which I never knew what that felt […]

Wisdom From Divorce: Are You Miserable In Your Marriage?

Nobody expects a marriage to be awesome all the time. We’ve all been told you have to work at your marriage and that there are good times and bad but what happens when you realize you’re miserable in your marriage? The thought of being like my mom and being miserable in a marriage and being […]

Wisdom From Divorce: I Lost Myself In My Marriage

When your marriage is ending or is deeply troubled, don’t be surprised to find yourself thinking, “I lost myself in my marriage.” In my marriage, I had really lost myself. I had lost my confidence and I had allowed myself to believe that I wasn’t capable of many things. So it was almost surprising that […]

Wisdom From Divorce: Was My Marriage A Lie?

When your marriage ends because you discover your spouse has been deceiving you since the very beginning, you ask yourself, “Was my marriage a lie?”: The fact that he was cross-dressing behind my back is, to me, a betrayal on the worst level. It’s like my whole marriage was a lie. I feel honestly, that […]

Wisdom From Divorce: I’m Afraid Of Being Alone

Have you ever asked someone whose marriage is clearly troubled why they stay? Ever heard, “I’m afraid of being alone?” or “I’d rather stay married than be alone?” Coming out of marriage at thirty-six I felt fear and loneliness, the fear that I would never find a match that I would really love, ultimately on […]

Wisdom From Divorce: Divorce Makes You Face The Truth

Divorce is scary. It’s scary because it’s unfamiliar to most of us. It’s also scary because it has a way of stripping away all our protective layers. Divorce makes you face the truth about yourself: I feel that’s a great thing divorce does – it makes you really face truth, whatever that truth is for […]

Wisdom From Divorce: Is It Too Painful To See Your Ex?

Parenting is hard work and it’s even harder when it’s important to partner with your child’s other partner but it’s too painful to see your ex or for your ex to see you: The only time my ex and I had trouble was in the first two years after our divorce. I was devastated, he […]

Wisdom From Divorce: Develop Your Child’s Coping Skills

We all worry about the impact our divorce will have on our children. Working out the logistics and minimizing the conflict with your ex are two ways you can help your children. There’s something else you can do too: The part to focus on with kids and divorce, is how do we make sure that […]