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A common feeling from women going through divorce is feeling lost, feeling that they don’t know themselves, not knowing what makes them happy and that ties into low self-esteem: My self-esteem began to plummet around the time I got married. Now I’m divorced I feel I’ve been taken back in time to when I was [...]
There’s no shortage of advice about dating after divorce and while some of it is contradictory, most experts agree that if you want to avoid making the same choices again, then it’s crucial to do your self-work before committing to a new relationship. There are rewards for doing that work: It’s wonderfully reassuring that there are [...]
When you’re struggling with your own marriage it’s very tempting to look at other couples and think they have it all figured out and even to wish your own marriage was more like theirs. The problem with that however is you have no idea what the marriage is really like. What’s visible on the outside [...]
Divorce is a very isolating time. Friends may become distant and you become guarded in what you want to share. Yet this is a time when you need support more than ever. I recommend to clients that they set up a Personal Support System: chose your three or four closest friends and confide in them. [...]
Introducing your new partner to your children is a big occasion giving you another opportunity to assess how well your partner’s values match yours and the type of relationship that might develop between them and your kids. Choosing an activity may make it easier than just having dinner because the activity itself can generate conversation. [...]
The accepted wisdom is that you can’t work on marital problems when there’s an underlying addiction issue. You have to treat the addiction first and then you can work on the relationship issues. And … we all know by now that it is the person with the addiction problem who has to want to change. [...]
I’ve talked to many people who’ve spent many, many hours trying to figure out why their marriage ended. It’s inevitable given that most of us marry with the words ’until death do us part.’ Sometimes you can see how you could have handled a situation or an issue differently and while you’ll never know what [...]
You can learn about what makes for a successful marriage from divorce. I’ve learned that supporting your spouse through their career is just one of the ways that married couples change together and stay together: He was threatened by my growth. He wasn’t a bad person, he just had a lot of fear and when [...]
A very common fear about life after divorce is around not having enough money and living in poverty. That’s why developing a plan for your financial independence is critical and implementing it is cause for celebration and admiration: I’m most proud that I’ve always been able to maintain a steady state for my children, to [...]
Regardless of who initiates divorce, you inevitably start wondering what you could have done differently. That’s an important question because it can hold the key to a fulfilling, meaningful relationship in the future. Even so, there are some situations in which nothing you could have done would have prevented the end of your marriage: My [...]
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