Comments on: Coparenting that works http://www.sincemydivorce.com/coparenting-that-works/ Divorce recovery for women Fri, 10 Feb 2012 09:13:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: SinceMyDivorce http://www.sincemydivorce.com/coparenting-that-works/comment-page-1/#comment-783 SinceMyDivorce Sat, 20 Mar 2010 15:15:25 +0000 http://sincemydivorce.com/?p=2574#comment-783 I think asking yourself "what's best for my children" is a good starting point for any parenting/relationship issue. I think it's hard to assess the damage a divorce does because you can never know what the damage would have been had the marriage continued. My children will always remember the day we told them we were getting divorced. It'll always be a sad memory for them and undoubtedly it has changed their lives. But have they been "damaged" by it - I hope not. I do know however that I'm a better mother for having ended my marriage. I think asking yourself "what's best for my children" is a good starting point for any parenting/relationship issue. I think it's hard to assess the damage a divorce does because you can never know what the damage would have been had the marriage continued. My children will always remember the day we told them we were getting divorced. It'll always be a sad memory for them and undoubtedly it has changed their lives. But have they been "damaged" by it – I hope not. I do know however that I'm a better mother for having ended my marriage.

]]> By: Vivianne http://www.sincemydivorce.com/coparenting-that-works/comment-page-1/#comment-782 Vivianne Sat, 20 Mar 2010 14:55:36 +0000 http://sincemydivorce.com/?p=2574#comment-782 I like how Lora has forged a new relationship with her husband. I also think she is brave for choosing to seek her happiness despite not having an obviously "bad" marriage. (I hesitate to use "bad" but couldn't think of another way to describe it) I think the key is to do what is best for the children so they are not emotionally scarred. I read somewhere that children of divorce need not fall into those statistics that say they will be damaged for life, as long as at least one parent normalizes the situation and do their best to maintain their emotional health. I like how Lora has forged a new relationship with her husband. I also think she is brave for choosing to seek her happiness despite not having an obviously "bad" marriage. (I hesitate to use "bad" but couldn't think of another way to describe it) I think the key is to do what is best for the children so they are not emotionally scarred. I read somewhere that children of divorce need not fall into those statistics that say they will be damaged for life, as long as at least one parent normalizes the situation and do their best to maintain their emotional health.

]]> By: SinceMyDivorce http://www.sincemydivorce.com/coparenting-that-works/comment-page-1/#comment-781 SinceMyDivorce Sun, 28 Feb 2010 16:01:32 +0000 http://sincemydivorce.com/?p=2574#comment-781 Good point Swati ... I think the next couple of posts will show that Lora has created a life she's very content with. I have no idea about her ex and of course, that's one thing with my blog, I haven't ever interviewed the ex for their perspective. Could be interesting to do that? Good point Swati … I think the next couple of posts will show that Lora has created a life she's very content with. I have no idea about her ex and of course, that's one thing with my blog, I haven't ever interviewed the ex for their perspective. Could be interesting to do that?

]]> By: Swati http://www.sincemydivorce.com/coparenting-that-works/comment-page-1/#comment-780 Swati Sat, 27 Feb 2010 14:11:22 +0000 http://sincemydivorce.com/?p=2574#comment-780 What an impactful story. It must be hard to leave when things aren't visibly horrible to those around you. I'm glad she has chosen to show her kids that it's okay to try to be happy in life, not just be. I do hope they aren't both doing so much for each other that they can't create those newer, happier lives though. Swati What an impactful story. It must be hard to leave when things aren't visibly horrible to those around you. I'm glad she has chosen to show her kids that it's okay to try to be happy in life, not just be.

I do hope they aren't both doing so much for each other that they can't create those newer, happier lives though.
Swati

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