Deciding To End Your Marriage

Feeling safe

Jen's husband was diagnosed with cancer at about the same time she was coming to the realization that her marriage was over but between juggling work, her children and her husband's treatment, she needed time to think about the future. Here's Jen: I waited. I didn’t even know what I was going to do when he was sick. I was so occupied with trying to move my house and making sure my kids were … [Continue reading...]

Too Sad

I've tried to write my usual week-in-review post but friends, I'm too sad. Today, we learned that a friend of my son's committed suicide last night and that is weighing heavily on my mind, too heavily not to mention it. I don't know much about what happened and I never meet the child. I don't know his family but my heart goes out to them. His mother died last year from complications with … [Continue reading...]

Cancer won’t save a marriage

Running

Jen had been married for fourteen years when her life was crumbling into financial ruin. Her husband was no longer employed although Jen wasn't sure when he actually lost his job because he'd told so many lies. She'd found out he'd been borrowing money to cover gambling debts and meanwhile she was working a low-paying job trying to keep the family afloat. Then came the devastating news that he had … [Continue reading...]

Pushing for the truth

Urgent Care

Yesterday, I introduced Jen who after almost ten years of marriage started to realize that her husband was a pathological liar, lying to her on multiple fronts, where he was working, their health insurance and how much money he'd borrowed. Much of what he was telling her wasn't making sense but there was always an element of plausibility. She started to push harder for answers. Here's … [Continue reading...]

Lies, Lies And More Lies

Can you trust a liar?

Today, I'd like to introduce you to my next guest, Jen who's been divorced now for just six months and separated for two years. In her words, this is not your average divorce story.  Jen had been married for about fourteen years when her husband was diagnosed with cancer. That's also when they separated. Hearing about someone getting divorced when their spouse has cancer is shocking but I think … [Continue reading...]

Week in review

Hi! Hope you appreciated reading Nancy's story. I'll admit Nancy's a little different from most of my guests in that she's still in the early stages of life after divorce even though their marriage ended some three years ago. This reinforces that there is no magic timeline of where you should be when following divorce. It's all about finding the pace that's right for you. For me, much of the … [Continue reading...]

Divorce Ceremonies – why they matter

Celebrant Michele Davidson

Early on in February, I ran into Vancouver-based celebrant, Michele Davidson through Twitter. It was one of those completely by accident online meetings but one that you get the sense was meant to be. Along with celebrating all the usual major events in life, Michele creates divorce ceremonies. The very name struck a chord bringing to mind something spiritual, intentional, honorable - a way to … [Continue reading...]