Forgive your ex and forgive yourself


Today I'm starting a very special series. Why is it special? It's special because my guest is a gentleman called Carlos Phillips. This is only the second interview I've done with a man about life after divorce but when Carlos contacted me, I knew I had to grab this opportunity. Following his divorce, Carlos wrote a book, Healed Without Scars because as he says there are lots of books about life … [Continue reading...]

A happy life after divorce

Creating a happy life after divorce

Today, I'm wrapping up Swati's series and for this final segment, I asked Swati what she considered to be her greatest accomplishment. It wasn't having the courage to end her marriage and it wasn't committing to a new love. It was creating a happy life. Here's Swati: I think creating a really positive and happy life and household for myself and my daughter is my greatest accomplishment, because … [Continue reading...]

Creating a happy blended family


Swati's daughter is about ten now and Swati's new husband has a sixteen-year-old and a twenty-two-year-old. Swati's daughter lives with them almost all the time while her husband's youngest comes to stay every two or three weeks. His eldest daughter is away at college. I asked Swati what tips she and her husband had for creating a happy blended family. Here's Swati: [contemplate1] I have a … [Continue reading...]

Making online dating work for you


We left Swati in Are you ready to date? at 11:30 at night about to swoop into action in online dating. You already know she was married this past New Year's Eve, so exactly how did she find her new partner? Here's Swati: [contemplate1] Match looked like I had to do too much writing myself, and I was getting tired, so I picked eHarmony. I have to say the surveys were much longer than I thought … [Continue reading...]

Are you enough?

My daughter came home the other day and told me I had to watch this TED talk about vulnerability - her English teacher had shown it to the class because the book they're reading currently is all about vulnerability. The talk is by Brené Brown who introduces herself as a researcher-storyteller. She studies human connection and during her research she says she went through a breakdown or a spiritual … [Continue reading...]

Are You Ready To Date?

Dancing makes for a fun date

When I introduced Swati, who writes The Single Mothers Chronicles, I shared that she had just got married on New Year's Eve. So when Swati and I talked, it was natural that we would talk about dating and how she met her now-husband. Here's what Swati had to say about being ready to date and her early forays into dating: The funny thing is that when you get divorced, you feel like you’ve just … [Continue reading...]

Adjusting to life as a single parent

A shared parenting schedule can mean lots of car time for kids

For some people, divorce is the culmination of a slow, gradual move apart and they will tell you that divorce didn't have a huge impact on their daily life. For others, divorce is a dramatic, sudden change creating a seismic shift in daily life. Being a single parent, with full custody of a very young child makes that shift even more challenging and as Swati's shares here, we do nothing to prepare … [Continue reading...]