Week in review

Hi! Hope you appreciated reading Nancy's story. I'll admit Nancy's a little different from most of my guests in that she's still in the early stages of life after divorce even though their marriage ended some three years ago. This reinforces that there is no magic timeline of where you should be when following divorce. It's all about finding the pace that's right for you. For me, much of the … [Continue reading...]

Divorce Ceremonies – why they matter

Celebrant Michele Davidson

Early on in February, I ran into Vancouver-based celebrant, Michele Davidson through Twitter. It was one of those completely by accident online meetings but one that you get the sense was meant to be. Along with celebrating all the usual major events in life, Michele creates divorce ceremonies. The very name struck a chord bringing to mind something spiritual, intentional, honorable - a way to … [Continue reading...]

Freedom with a GPS


This is the last segment in Nancy's series - this has been a challenging series because despite having been separated for three years, Nancy still has a long healing journey ahead of her. Her story is not without its victories though - Nancy has learned to drive herself. It might not sound like much, but I'll leave Nancy to explain... [contemplate1] While I was married, I didn't need to know … [Continue reading...]

Reader Question: What’s the etiquette with grandparents?

A reader recently wrote and asked this question: For the last couple years, I have sent two cards with pictures of the kids to their grandparents on my ex's side. He emailed me recently and is very angry that I have sent pictures and has asked me to discontinue this odd behavior. What is the etiquette regarding grandparents? Seems like they would still want contact with the … [Continue reading...]

When your ex starts dating

Online dating

Continuing Nancy's story, she was married for about seventeen years when she discovered that her husband had been secretly storing her unwanted clothes for years. He would wear her clothes in secret while viewing adult websites. While she tried playing his game, she couldn't light the fire on their intimacy and their marriage ended. That was almost three years ago and unfortunately the legal … [Continue reading...]

Week in review

Happy weekend to you all! Wow .. I can't believe how fast the time is flying; I didn't even have time to write a Review post last week. That time was taken up with parent-teacher conferences and shopping for a prom dress for my daughter. My daughter is graduating in May and will be off to college so it was the last conference for her. I won't miss conferences but it was just another reminder of … [Continue reading...]

Divorce and uncertainty

Facelift surgery

Nancy's efforts to understand her husband's fetish and to save her marriage, led her to a career as a model for some adult-theme websites. Along the way, she traveled to Orlando for a photo shoot. It was after that trip that her husband said he wanted a divorce. That's where we join Nancy's story: [contemplate1] I was shocked when he said he wanted a divorce and I didn't think he'd really go … [Continue reading...]