Creating a happy blended family

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Swati's daughter is about ten now and Swati's new husband has a sixteen-year-old and a twenty-two-year-old. Swati's daughter lives with them almost all the time while her husband's youngest comes to stay every two or three weeks. His eldest daughter is away at college. I asked Swati what tips she and her husband had for creating a happy blended family. Here's Swati: [contemplate1] I have a … [Continue reading...]

Making online dating work for you

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We left Swati in Are you ready to date? at 11:30 at night about to swoop into action in online dating. You already know she was married this past New Year's Eve, so exactly how did she find her new partner? Here's Swati: [contemplate1] Match looked like I had to do too much writing myself, and I was getting tired, so I picked eHarmony. I have to say the surveys were much longer than I thought … [Continue reading...]

Are you enough?

My daughter came home the other day and told me I had to watch this TED talk about vulnerability - her English teacher had shown it to the class because the book they're reading currently is all about vulnerability. The talk is by Brené Brown who introduces herself as a researcher-storyteller. She studies human connection and during her research she says she went through a breakdown or a spiritual … [Continue reading...]

Are You Ready To Date?

Dancing makes for a fun date

When I introduced Swati, who writes The Single Mothers Chronicles, I shared that she had just got married on New Year's Eve. So when Swati and I talked, it was natural that we would talk about dating and how she met her now-husband. Here's what Swati had to say about being ready to date and her early forays into dating: The funny thing is that when you get divorced, you feel like you’ve just … [Continue reading...]

Adjusting to life as a single parent

A shared parenting schedule can mean lots of car time for kids

For some people, divorce is the culmination of a slow, gradual move apart and they will tell you that divorce didn't have a huge impact on their daily life. For others, divorce is a dramatic, sudden change creating a seismic shift in daily life. Being a single parent, with full custody of a very young child makes that shift even more challenging and as Swati's shares here, we do nothing to prepare … [Continue reading...]

I just want full custody

Divorce Italian Style

Swati was in her early thirties when she got divorced about seven years ago. After accepting her husband's infidelity, she filed for divorce, at which point he started to harass her. The only way she could put an end to the harassment was to move out taking her young child with her. She knew her husband was a fighter, she knew she wanted full custody and she knew that negotiating their divorce was … [Continue reading...]

Ending the harassment

Once Swati saw the divorce red flags, accepted that her marriage could not be saved and filed for divorce, her husband started to harass her. They were still living together in the same house, Swati having been led to believe they were required to do so by the laws of Illinois until the divorce was final. Her husband was a fighter and there seemed to be no end to the negotiations. Then Swati's … [Continue reading...]