Separations shape your relationship with your ex

When author and marriage and family therapist, Judy Osborne and I talked, she introduced me to the idea that there can be many separations in a marriage. In her guest post about separations she talked mainly about those that happen during parenting. Those aren't the only ones. A job promotion or a new job that requires more hours away from home, a new pastime such as bicycling or fishing, perhaps … [Continue reading...]

Wisdom for Separated Parents

College Move-in Day - a family affair

Today begins a new series with author Judy Osborne. As a marriage and family therapist, Judy has seen many former partners effectively reinvent themselves, expanding and reclaiming the family circle as kin. She's seen them successfully navigate family life post-divorce, breaking societal norms of how divorced partners are supposed to behave. Her book, Wisdom for Separated Parents is a collection … [Continue reading...]

How to Use Credit Wisely After a Divorce


It's the beginning of the month and that means it's time for another great post from guest money blogger Suzanne Cramer. This month's focus is on credit. Here's Suzanne: [contemplate1]If you are in the throws of a divorce, balancing a checkbook, paying bills, and applying for credit are furthest from your mind. But, if you are going to be on your own you will need a crash course on all … [Continue reading...]

Book Review: Nothing To Wear

Nothing To Wear

A couple of months ago, I was the lucky winner of a copy of Nothing to Wear? A 5-Step Cure for the Common Closet by Jesse Garza and Joe Lupo From Visual Therapy. I didn't know at the time what the book was about and I'd never heard of the authors but flipping through it made me interested enough to take it on vacation. I devoured it before we even reached Thailand and now I'm just itching to … [Continue reading...]

The family vacation

Family dining in Bangkok

I'm happy to say I'm back from vacation and trying desperately to adjust back into my work/blogging routine but this jetlag is very challenging. I've been back for four days now and I'm still waking up at 3 a.m. My boss told me today that the guideline is one day for every hour of time difference. Thailand was thirteen hours ahead of Colorado so does that mean I'm going to be feeling like this for … [Continue reading...]

Finding Your Pilot Light Lover After Divorce

Cathy was another lady I interviewed very early on in this project and I wanted to share her story again because it is another story of hope. Cathy was with her husband for twenty-nine years and says it was a troubled marriage from the start. Over the years, she built a protective cocoon around herself and shut herself down both emotionally and sexually. When we spoke, Cathy described … [Continue reading...]

When a child says life after divorce is better

I like to think that a big discussion in any divorce is how the children will react. What impact will divorce have on them? What can you do to insulate the children from the pain? It’s a question I always like to ask my interviewees. Kathleen Christensen’s daughter was seven when Kathleen and her husband decided to end their marriage. When I asked Kathleen about her daughter, what she said was a … [Continue reading...]