Cancer won’t save a marriage

Running

Jen had been married for fourteen years when her life was crumbling into financial ruin. Her husband was no longer employed although Jen wasn't sure when he actually lost his job because he'd told so many lies. She'd found out he'd been borrowing money to cover gambling debts and meanwhile she was working a low-paying job trying to keep the family afloat. Then came the devastating news that he had … [Continue reading...]

Pushing for the truth

Urgent Care

Yesterday, I introduced Jen who after almost ten years of marriage started to realize that her husband was a pathological liar, lying to her on multiple fronts, where he was working, their health insurance and how much money he'd borrowed. Much of what he was telling her wasn't making sense but there was always an element of plausibility. She started to push harder for answers. Here's … [Continue reading...]

Lies, Lies And More Lies

Can you trust a liar?

Today, I'd like to introduce you to my next guest, Jen who's been divorced now for just six months and separated for two years. In her words, this is not your average divorce story.  Jen had been married for about fourteen years when her husband was diagnosed with cancer. That's also when they separated. Hearing about someone getting divorced when their spouse has cancer is shocking but I think … [Continue reading...]

Divorce Ceremonies – why they matter

Celebrant Michele Davidson

Early on in February, I ran into Vancouver-based celebrant, Michele Davidson through Twitter. It was one of those completely by accident online meetings but one that you get the sense was meant to be. Along with celebrating all the usual major events in life, Michele creates divorce ceremonies. The very name struck a chord bringing to mind something spiritual, intentional, honorable - a way to … [Continue reading...]

Freedom with a GPS

GPS

This is the last segment in Nancy's series - this has been a challenging series because despite having been separated for three years, Nancy still has a long healing journey ahead of her. Her story is not without its victories though - Nancy has learned to drive herself. It might not sound like much, but I'll leave Nancy to explain... [contemplate1] While I was married, I didn't need to know … [Continue reading...]

Reader Question: What’s the etiquette with grandparents?

A reader recently wrote and asked this question: For the last couple years, I have sent two cards with pictures of the kids to their grandparents on my ex's side. He emailed me recently and is very angry that I have sent pictures and has asked me to discontinue this odd behavior. What is the etiquette regarding grandparents? Seems like they would still want contact with the … [Continue reading...]

When your ex starts dating

Online dating

Continuing Nancy's story, she was married for about seventeen years when she discovered that her husband had been secretly storing her unwanted clothes for years. He would wear her clothes in secret while viewing adult websites. While she tried playing his game, she couldn't light the fire on their intimacy and their marriage ended. That was almost three years ago and unfortunately the legal … [Continue reading...]