A Culture of Marriage

A Matchmaker

In my last post about author Antonia Ragozzini, she shared how after two marriages and dating in-between, she realized that there wasn't anything wrong with her, she was choosing the wrong men. She needed a fresh start, she needed to start by loving herself. I asked Antonia if our culture of marriage and the way she was raised played into that. Here's what she … [Continue reading...]

Choosing the wrong men

trash bins

In her book, Taking Out The Trash, author Antonia Ragozzino uses the weekly chore of taking out the trash bins as a metaphor for saying goodbye to the men in her life. With one mismatched date after another, Antonia started to wonder what was wrong with her. Why did she keeping picking the wrong man? Then she found her answer. Here's Antonia: [contemplate1] I always ended up picking men who … [Continue reading...]

When Your Husband Does Drugs

Men's Softball

My current guest is Antonia Ragozzino , author of Taking Out The Trash, a fictional tale based on Antonia's journey after divorce. Antonia is thirty-nine years old now and since the age of twenty-four she's been married twice and divorced twice. Both her husbands became drug users. Here's Antonia: I had lived such a sheltered life, I had never even seen drugs before. So I was clueless for two … [Continue reading...]

Taking out the trash – meet the author

Taking Out The Trash

My next guest is Antonia Ragozzino who has just published her first novel, Taking Out The Trash. The book is fiction although Antonia has based the main character, Ella on herself and on her journey after divorce. Here's Antonia: I am 39 years old. I was married at twenty four and divorced the first time at twenty-eight. It was a very trying time. It was basically a rough time with … [Continue reading...]

Going back to school as a single mom

College lecture

Once Jen realized she was going to have to support herself and her children financially, quite possibly forever, she knew that low-paying jobs weren't the answer. If you're already working as many hours as you can, the only way to grow your income is to increase your pay rate. For Jen, that meant going back to school to gain a teaching qualification. Although that makes a lot of sense, time spent … [Continue reading...]

The Marital Home – Should You Stay Or Go?

home for sale

My last guest, Jen lost her marital home because of her husband's gambling addiction. So when it came to divorce there was no decision to make about the marital home. It was already gone. For many couples however, the marital home represents their largest financial asset and so the decision about what happens to the home tends to be one of the earliest decisions in the division of assets. It is … [Continue reading...]

Talking about divorce

Girlfriend chat

I have some staple questions I like to ask my guests such as, "What do you regard as your most significant accomplishment since your divorce? Why is it so significant?" In this final post in Jen's story, Jen responds to another staple, "How has your view about divorce changed?" Here's Jen: [contemplate1] I’ll be honest, I would say I was probably pretty judgmental about other people who had … [Continue reading...]