Two homes, two sets of rules

House rules

One of the questions that inevitably comes up about co-parenting is how to deal with two homes, two rules. One of the benefits of a healthy co-parenting relationship with your ex is that it keeps the communication channels open for discussions about this. Here's Terry talking about how she and her ex work this out: My ex and I try to have the same rules at home and occasionally it can be … [Continue reading...]

Supporting each other in coparenting

My current guest is Terry who writes the blog, Scribblings of a Soccer Mom. It only took a few visits to her blog for me to sense that Terry is doing an awesome job of co-parenting with her ex. Terry says that moving past the anger and hurt of her divorce has helped her to co-parent successfully but above that is a philosophy to do what is best for the children. Here's Terry: We talk almost … [Continue reading...]

Moving past the anger and hurt

At the playground

In the first post of this series, Terry, described how she'd become complacent about her health, struggling with depression, restless leg syndrome and fibromyalgia while all the time knowing her marriage was also in trouble. After her husband moved out, Terry was committed to taking better care of herself and today leads a much more active life. I asked her to talk about the impact being healthier … [Continue reading...]

Being healthy after divorce

Softball for fun

Today, I'd like to introduce you to Terry who writes the blog, Scribblings of a Soccer Mom. Terry's first marriage ended more than three years ago after she and her husband had been together for fifteen years. She was thirty-five then and their two children - a girl and a boy - were eleven and nine. Both Terry and her ex are remarried now. At age twenty-seven, Terry was diagnosed with … [Continue reading...]

Your options for dealing with debt after divorce

Erasing debt

One of my universal truths about divorce is that it always changes your financial situation and most often, it means doing more with less. For many people, divorce also means debt. This month's financial guest post from Suzanne Cramer is about ways to handle debt after divorce. Here's Suzanne: [contemplate1] Debt may have been the cause of your divorce, a catalyst, or just the result of the … [Continue reading...]

I used to think divorce was the plague

My current guest, Antonia came from a tightly-knit family with a strong Italian heritage. A family where divorce didn't happen and and long-term marriages were the norm. With that background, I asked Antonia how her two divorces had changed her perspective on divorce. Here's Antonia: [contemplate1] I used to think divorce was the plague! It was Satan, it was like “people don’t get divorced,” … [Continue reading...]

Adjusting to living alone

dishwasher

Antonia (author of Taking Out the Trash) was twenty-four when she married the first time and twenty-eight when she divorced. She was married again for two years in her early thirties. Now, at thirty-nine, she's mastered the art of living alone. Here's Antonia: [contemplate1] I was never spoiled, but my father worked very hard and my sisters and I, we each got a car on our sixteenth birthdays, … [Continue reading...]