A DIY divorce

Jenni and her husband were married for almost 15 years and had two children who were aged twelve and seven, when Jenni decided to end the marriage. Moving out was a courageous move - after a series of extramarital affairs, a sexual assault and some time in rehab, Jenni had decided to go to college full-time, despite being made to feel stupid. With her background, and a limited income as a … [Continue reading...]

He made me feel I was stupid

After her two catalytic moments, Jenni knew it was time to leave. She was a long way from being certain that everything would work out but like the tea box said, she was pretty sure that she if she leaped, the net would appear. For about as long as she'd been thinking about leaving, she'd been thinking of finishing her education and committing to that was the opportunity she … [Continue reading...]

Talalay Pillow Giveaway


THIS GIVEAWAY IS NOW CLOSED This past week, I’ve been testing a Leggett & Platt Talalay Latex pillow and although it’s been an adjustment I am now a big fan. Before I tell you about the pillow, let me explain that Leggett & Platt is to mattresses what Intel is to PCs. It manufactures mattress springs and has just introduced a new innerspring, the VertiCoil Edge. I know that doesn't … [Continue reading...]

Leap and the net will appear


Jenni came out of rehab in late 2007. It was almost another year before she found the courage to leave her marriage. There were two incidents that told Jenni enough was enough. Here’s Jenni: [contemplate1]There were many fights but I remember one big one when he woke me up at 5:30 in the morning. We were still sleeping in the same bed at the time and I woke up to him calling me a whore, a … [Continue reading...]

Rehab Isn’t Marriage Counseling

Jenni was with her husband for about fifteen years and was thirty-six when she decided to leave the marriage just over a year ago. Her marriage had been in trouble for a long time and had spiraled downhill five years ago with her infidelity and drug problems. In a failed attempt to hide a sexual assault from her husband, she convinced him to move to Colorado. Here's Jenni: Shortly after we … [Continue reading...]

A downward spiral into extramarital affairs


Today, I’m starting a new series and would like to introduce you to Jenni. Jenni contacted me after she read about Since My Divorce in the Graying of Divorce article in the Denver Post and she agreed to share her story. Since she lives close by, we met for coffee. It wasn’t an easy interview for Jenni – there were a lot of tears. She's had a difficult few years but now she feels she’s finally … [Continue reading...]

What happened is not who I am


It's been almost six years since Debbie first found out about her husband's infidelity. That was the beginning of a journey that meant confronting the trauma and sadness of pedophilia and suicide.  The emotional toll of those events is unimaginable and yet here Debbie is undertaking a charity half-marathon. Debbie has shared how difficult it was for her to find resources that spoke to her specific … [Continue reading...]