Guiding Others Through Divorce

Carlos Phillips

I have two more posts in the series with my guest, Carlos Phillips who's been divorced now for about ten years. During that time he's learned to forgive himself and his ex, to be the rock star dad and to fall in love again. He's taken all that experience and turned it into a book, Healed Without Scars and into the Healed Without Scars Ministry to help others with divorce recovery. Here's Carlos to … [Continue reading...]

Using a family activity to test your new love

Monopoly in the park

Carlos Phillips, author of Healed Without Scars and founder of the Healed Without Scars Ministries has been married for the second time for over three years now to Clarissa. Carlos has two boys from his first marriage, they are sixteen and thirteen now. Accepting his family was one of Carlos's important make it or break it dating criteria so he had to find out if Clarissa, who had no children of … [Continue reading...]

Getting into the dating game

Carlos Phillips, author of Healed Without Scars and founder of the Healed Without Scars Ministries was married for seven years when his marriage ended. That was ten years ago. Carlos is now married again. His wife and life partner, Clarissa partners with Carlos in the ministries. Before we talk about how Carlos introduced Clarissa to his boys, I asked Carlos what he learned from his divorce about … [Continue reading...]

Not the primary parent anymore

Brothers

My current guest is Carlos Phillips, author of Healed Without Scars and founder of the Healed Without Scars Ministries. Carlos was married for seven years when his marriage ended. He's father to two boys who were just six and two at the time. For the past nine years or so under their parenting plan, he's been their primary custodial parent. That changed in August last year when his ex became the … [Continue reading...]

Being The Rock Star Dad

Ten years ago Carlos and his wife of seven years ended their marriage. Their two boys were just six and two. Carlos became the primary custodial parent, an arrangement that even today is unusual. I asked Carlos to talk about what it meant as a father. Here's Carlos: Our very first run at the splitting of the schedule, the boys were there at their mom’s house one school week, then with me, but … [Continue reading...]

The honesty to forgive

Journaling

In the first segment about Carlos he talked about the importance of forgiving your ex AND yourself after divorce and I agreed that it is key to finding that inner calm and happiness. I think forgiveness is a process, it takes time. It's not like getting a new job or buying a car which you can cross of the to do list and say that's done. Realizing what it is that needs to be forgiven also takes … [Continue reading...]

Forgive your ex and forgive yourself

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Today I'm starting a very special series. Why is it special? It's special because my guest is a gentleman called Carlos Phillips. This is only the second interview I've done with a man about life after divorce but when Carlos contacted me, I knew I had to grab this opportunity. Following his divorce, Carlos wrote a book, Healed Without Scars because as he says there are lots of books about life … [Continue reading...]