Living up to expectations

In the first post in Megan's story - Should never have got married - Megan said she'd got married because she was pregnant and then stayed because of the financial stability. She was a stay-at-home mom during her five-year marriage and so far, through a combination of savings, financial support from her parents and alimony she has managed to continue as a stay-at-home mom to her three children … [Continue reading...]

Should Never Have Got Married

Welcome back from the Holidays ... I'm slowly getting back into our routine and have so enjoyed these last few weeks. My kids go back to school tomorrow so I guess the reality will hit then. I do have say though, I love it when school starts again midweek - you just have to go a few days before there's a weekend to recharge. Today, I'd like to introduce you to Megan who has been divorced now … [Continue reading...]

A friend in your heart

Judy on her travels

This is the last in my series about Judy, who in the seven years since her husband left, has got her teaching certificate, traveled to Alaska with the Girl Scouts and participated in many outdoor trips. I asked Judy to reflect on her divorce - how does she see all the years she was married and how does she feel about the time she spent with her ex. Here's Judy: [contemplate1] What I tell people … [Continue reading...]

Does divorcing your spouse mean divorcing your in-laws?

Friends with your in-laws after divorce|divorce support|Since My Divorce

Another aspect of life after divorce is your relationship with your ex's family and you may be wondering if divorcing your spouse means divorcing your in-laws. This is obviously influenced by the relationship you've had with them during the marriage and I think also by the duration of your marriage. It's also a two-way street - both parties have to want to keep the relationship alive and both … [Continue reading...]

Exploring the outdoors after divorce

Judy learning to rappel

Talking to Judy about her divorce got me thinking about the difference having children still at home makes to life after divorce. I'm not going to say that one is harder than the other but there are definitely different challenges. For one thing, when you still have children many of your activities are tied to their activities and your free time is limited. If you don't have children or if you're … [Continue reading...]

An opportunity to travel

When Judy's marriage ended, she knew had to do something to increase her income and she ended up finding the job that was meant to be. Another area that was a challenge for her, and is for many newly-single people, is travel and vacations. When you're used to traveling with your husband, it's not that easy to just suddenly go adventuring on your own. Here's what Judy did: My husband and I used … [Continue reading...]

A job that was meant to be

Picking up Judy's story, you'll recall that her twenty-eight year marriage ended when she came home to an empty house . She never felt it was about her but more about his untreated medical problems. His job situation had been very unstable for a few years and when they did divorce he wasn't working. So like most of us, divorce meant a significant change in financial circumstances for Judy. Good … [Continue reading...]