When do you need a financial adviser?

10 Keys: A Woman's Guide to a Successful Financial Divorce

When confronted with divorce, I think most of us know enough to look at the different legal processes (traditional, mediation, collaborative). We know to consider couples therapy or even therapy for ourselves. My sense is that using a divorce coach is becoming more usual but when do you need a financial advisor? My guest today is Meredith Bromfield, author of 10 Keys: A Woman's Guide for … [Continue reading...]

Marriage does work

Wedding band

I've mentioned a couple of times during this series that my guest, Carlos has now remarried and will be celebrating his fourth anniversary in June. Clearly, Carlos still believes in marriage though his divorce, something he never thought would happened to him, gave him the key to a successful marriage. Here's Carlos: [contemplate1] Never in a million years did I think I would get divorced. … [Continue reading...]

Guiding Others Through Divorce

Carlos Phillips

I have two more posts in the series with my guest, Carlos Phillips who's been divorced now for about ten years. During that time he's learned to forgive himself and his ex, to be the rock star dad and to fall in love again. He's taken all that experience and turned it into a book, Healed Without Scars and into the Healed Without Scars Ministry to help others with divorce recovery. Here's Carlos to … [Continue reading...]

Using a family activity to test your new love

Monopoly in the park

Carlos Phillips, author of Healed Without Scars and founder of the Healed Without Scars Ministries has been married for the second time for over three years now to Clarissa. Carlos has two boys from his first marriage, they are sixteen and thirteen now. Accepting his family was one of Carlos's important make it or break it dating criteria so he had to find out if Clarissa, who had no children of … [Continue reading...]

Getting into the dating game

Carlos Phillips, author of Healed Without Scars and founder of the Healed Without Scars Ministries was married for seven years when his marriage ended. That was ten years ago. Carlos is now married again. His wife and life partner, Clarissa partners with Carlos in the ministries. Before we talk about how Carlos introduced Clarissa to his boys, I asked Carlos what he learned from his divorce about … [Continue reading...]

Not the primary parent anymore

Brothers

My current guest is Carlos Phillips, author of Healed Without Scars and founder of the Healed Without Scars Ministries. Carlos was married for seven years when his marriage ended. He's father to two boys who were just six and two at the time. For the past nine years or so under their parenting plan, he's been their primary custodial parent. That changed in August last year when his ex became the … [Continue reading...]

Being The Rock Star Dad

Ten years ago Carlos and his wife of seven years ended their marriage. Their two boys were just six and two. Carlos became the primary custodial parent, an arrangement that even today is unusual. I asked Carlos to talk about what it meant as a father. Here's Carlos: Our very first run at the splitting of the schedule, the boys were there at their mom’s house one school week, then with me, but … [Continue reading...]