A Parenting Plan Driven By Your Child

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I think by now you have an idea of how challenging divorce was for Kathleen Christensen. Just to refresh your memories, Kathleen was married for about nine years and their daughter was seven when they separated. Kathleen has described the co-parenting relationship she has now as a miracle. She credits not only the collaborative divorce process for this but also the decision to work with a … [Continue reading...]

Building for the future with a collaborative divorce

Continuing in this series with Kathleen Christensen, she talked previously about the collaborative divorce she and her ex negotiated. Looking back, she says that process had a benefit that she didn't recognize at the time. Here's what she told me. We were really building the relationship for the future. We were building a healthy relationship and a foundation. I think a lot of people are able … [Continue reading...]

A collaborative divorce is not an easy divorce

In my last post I introduced Kathleen Christensen who described the relationship she now has with her ex as a miracle. She says that's due in large part to the "collaborative divorce" which doesn't refer to the way she and her ex worked together but rather a very specific divorce process. Here's how she described it to me. [contemplate1]You each have your own lawyer and we would meet with our … [Continue reading...]

Divorce Leads To Better Parenting

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One of the amazing women I've had the good fortune of meeting and interviewing for this project is Kathleen Christensen, who blogs at Head in the Clouds. Kathleen will tell you that the process of her divorce was long, tedious, exhausting and exasperating. What she will also tell you is that she could never have imagined going through it, that the end result would be the productive co-parenting … [Continue reading...]

Formal Separations: Taking the Roof off the House

In her first guest post, Judy Osborne, author of Wisdom for Separated Parents:Rearranging Around the Children to Keep Kinship Strong, talked about how the arrival of children into a marriage, throws the spotlight on your own family background creating the opportunity to decide what you want to keep and what you want to do differently. It's almost inevitable that your family experience will be very … [Continue reading...]

Parenting: Normal Differences and Formal Separations

I recently had the pleasure of interviewing Judy Osborne, author of Wisdom for Separated Parents:Rearranging Around the Children to Keep Kinship Strong. Through interviews separated parents, Judy uncovers another trait of Baby Boomers: the concept of separated family members as "kin," forever linked by love for, and responsibility to, their children. When Judy and I talked, we chatted about … [Continue reading...]

Budgeting 101: Keeping Track of Your Money

In an on-going series about learning to manage money after divorce, guest blogger Suzanne Cramer guides us through creating a budget: Now more that ever it is important to have a budget in place. As a single person your household relies solely on you to develop a budget and stick to it. Don’t keep yourself in the dark about where your money goes; find out by organizing your finances in a … [Continue reading...]