Wisdom From Divorce: 50/50 Parenting Is Not For The Children

The trend today in parenting after divorce is equal time shared between both parents. Typically this is measured by the number of overnights the child has with each parent. While this may seem to fair to the parents, there's a growing movement that says it's not in the child's best interest. It's my belief, and I feel strongly about it , that going back and forth is not for the kid. It's for the … [Continue reading...]

Being In Denial

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Don’t Let Your Spouse Define Who You Are

Divorce will impact your self-esteem

Defining your self-worth or tying your self-esteem to your spouse makes confronting a troubled marriage even more difficult. Sometimes, working on your self-esteem first will give you the courage to address your marriage while other times, divorce will force you. My current guest, Carol Round was married for 28 years and has been divorced now for twelve years. She sees now that her self-esteem … [Continue reading...]

Midlife Dating After Divorce

Dating after divorce is about not rushing into a commitment

It's natural to feel intimidated about dating after divorce. Aside from it probably being something you didn't expect to engage in again, it may have been a long time since you dated someone other than your spouse and you may also feel that your dating skills need a refresher. My current guest, Carol Round has been divorced now for twelve years. While she hasn't dated anyone for the last year, … [Continue reading...]

Will Your Kids Understand?

Your children may come to understand why you divorced

How your children will react to your divorce is a common and valid concern. Many of us hope for some indication that they understand the situation, even if the specific details behind the breakup are not shared. That acknowledgement can lessen any guilt about the end of your marriage and can also be reassuring that it was the right decision. But don't expect that understanding to be immediate. … [Continue reading...]

Wisdom From Divorce: Do You Fantasize About Your Spouse Dying?

Wishing your spouse would die is an undeniable sign that your marriage is in serious trouble and it's time to face reality. I kept thinking we were in our late twenties and there was no way I was going to be able to divorce this man. Maybe he'll be killed in a car accident. I would fantasize about that but I would feel such awful guilt. ~ Pippi Pippi knew her husband in high school but they … [Continue reading...]

“Failure” As An Opportunity To Learn

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