Getting divorce is a series of milestones ... making the decision ... telling your spouse ... telling the children ... going public your divorce ... moving out ... hiring an attorney ...Each milestone is its own challenge and often requires another shot of courage especially when it involves opening up to others and being honest about what's been going.
My current guest, Suzy had been hiding … [Continue reading...]
We grow up receiving messages about marriage and divorce, what they are, what they aren't, what's right, what's wrong. Those messages come from lots of sources: parents, religion, media, movies and personal experience. Often times we carry these messages subconsciously and when divorce goes against these messages, it can cause great turmoil and conflict. Ultimately though it's about learning to … [Continue reading...]
Once you've made up your mind to end your marriage, there can be a sense to urgency to move ahead with filing for divorce and physically separating especially. However, barring any pressing needs to protect yourself, the best action is to slow it down. Recognize that breaking up takes time and don't allow yourself to be pressured.
That's exactly what my current guest, Suzy did. Her and her … [Continue reading...]
In a culture that reveres marriage and especially long term marriage, marriage vows come first but that shouldn't always be the case:
My daughter said, "Mommy, I want to leave here. I want to be able to sleep in peace. I don't want to be scared all the time." That's when it hit me that I was putting my marriage vow in front of my children's well-being and that could not be. ~ Vivianne
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Getting divorced can mean a dramatic change in your lifestyle and if you're weighing up your marriage, that can make it a difficult decision. There are always trade-offs and it's a very personal decision that often starts with figuring out who you are.
My current guest Suzy realized very early in her marriage that it was a union without physical or emotional intimacy. Her and her husband … [Continue reading...]
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