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DawnDawn, a school principal, found the maintenance behind owning a home horrifying. After tackling the garbage disposal and a leaky shower faucet, she realized the knowledge that she can make her own repairs is the greatest accomplishment.Dawn, do it yourself, home repair, maintenance, living singly
MaryMary had to learn to drive a trailer if she wanted to continue water skiing after divorce. She was willing to learn something new, and with determination, is now a pro. Mary, fun after divorce, living singly, driving a trailer
MaryanMaryan was married for over 20 years to a man who traveled often for business. Once divorced, Maryan had to change careers in order to support herself. Maryan, career change, living singly,
Melanie Melanie, a writer, career coach and shaman, was divorced and is now happily remarried. She stresses the importance of asking for help when it's needed. Melanie Mulhall, asking for help, living singly,
CathyCathy, who was experiencing a loss of passion after being married for 29 years, divorced and returned to Australia. Even after nearly 30 years in the United States, Cathy felt she was a perfect example of what Gail Sheehy calls "The Pilot Light Lover" and a woman with a rejuvenated passion for life. Cathy, Gail Sheehy, love after divorce, midlife love
Valentine's DayWith all the commercialism it's hard to escape Valentine's Day. So how do newly single women celebrate this day?Valentine's Day
MarthaMartha built a small farm with her ex over the course of 13 years and when he asked if she wanted to stay when they split, she couldn't imagine leaving. By breaking down the huge responsibility of owning the farm into smaller tasks, Martha was able to hold onto something very dear to her heart. Martha, Horse farm, irrigation, mortgage, refinance, finances
SueSue was married for three years and has been divorced for four. Money management was a big factor in her divorce, and as a result, her relationship with money has completely changed.Sue, Bankruptcy, money after divorce, overdraft, budgeting, finances, managing money, your money or your life
Page LambertPage was married for 25 years when she divorced and moved from their small ranch to a mountain town in Colorado where she had spent some of her childhood. Page has turned her divorce into a new accomplishment: published writing.Page Lambert, ranch, mountain town, getaway
Barbara WilderBarbara Wilder is a spiritual teacher and trance meditation therapist, as well as the author of two books and a play. Her guest post recounts the lessons she learned from her father about embracing life.Barbara Wilder, Great Depression, learning from parents, visionary
Carol GreverCarol Grever had been married for more than 30 years when her spouse, Jim, came out as gay. She managed to put anger behind her and transform the experience into a new career, and new life.Carol Grever, gay spouse, coming out, spiritual awakening
Kiesa KayKiesa Kay is a distinguished Kansas poet. Her friend's dying wish was for her to finish a children's book she had been writing. Kiesa's fascination with France and the sculptor Camille Claudel helped her get through her divorce and separation from her children. Kiesa Kay, poetry
CathyCathy has been separated for two years, and at first thought her greatest accomplishment was house maintenance. She soon realized that her greatest accomplishment was recognizing her own talents and gifts.Cathy, talents, recognizing/celebrating your gifts and skills
KayAfter 25 years of marriage, Kay's husband told her he was gay on a family vacation to Las Vegas. 10 years later, she is proud to be standing on her own. Kay, vegas, gay spouse, coming out, independent
LorraineLorraine had been blissfully married to her fighter pilot husband for almost 12 years when he unexpectedly left, leaving behind only a note. Lorraine is still making the adjustment to being single.Lorraine, happily married, single, dating after divorce
EvvyEvvy was married for an incredible 42 years when she was divorced. Four years later, she celebrates the little things, like changing a light bulb. Evvy, small accomplishments, long marriages
AnkaAnka was 28 when her and her husband of 10 years split up. After analyzing her past relationships, she was well on her way to rediscovering herself.Anka, betrayal, rediscovery, choosing the right partner
BarbaraBarbara was married for 14 years, during which time her husband steadily withdrew from their relationship. Her husband was bi-polar, and this made the divorce even harder on both of them. Afterward, Barbara found her true calling and happiness.Barbara, bi-polar spouse, rediscovery, finding yourself
SallySally had been married for nine years when her and her husband divorced. At 37, she had no children, and after divorcing, she knew it might mean she never would.Sally, no children
AnnAnn was with her husband for 17 years, married for 13, when she found out she was pregnant, and that pregnancy led to their divorce.Ann, pregnancy, pregnancy leading to divorce
HollyHolly married her husband when they were faced with an unplanned pregnancy. They were married four years when they divorced and Holly began to rediscover herself.Holly, pregnancy, pregnancy leading to marriage
MaryMary was married to her husband for 23 years. When they divorced, she kept his last name because it was what she had gone by her entire professional career, despite his demand that she change back to her maiden name. Mary, Mary Wright, last name, maiden names, changing name after divorce
KirstieKirstie was married at 28 and took her husband's last name. When she divorced, she had no trouble whatsoever going back to her maiden name.Kirstie, last name, maiden name, family name
LouiseLouise was divorced for two years having kept her married name when she decided to change back to her maiden name.Louise, last name, maiden name
Kim KatzKim Katz was married and divorced twice, left a single mom with three children. Her proudest achievement is that she maintained a stable environment for her kids through everything, thanks to her intuition and her skill set.Kim Katz, children, multiple divorces, nursing, career
JoleneJolene was married for nearly 10 years before she and her husband divorced about a year ago. The biggest challenge she overcame was her fear of being alone.Jolene, alone, loneliness, fear
EliseElise was married for 13 years when her husband decided to leave her. Her most significant accomplishment was just surviving through it.Elise, survival, not marrying type
KristenKristen had two children with her husband before suffering severe post-partum depression and visiting an attorney with her six week-old baby in her arms. Now, after finding happiness with another man, she says her ultimate walkaway is she is a happier person and a better mother. Kristen, too young, ignore problems,
TT was pleasantly surprised by her relationship with her ex after divorce. She learned to let go and co-parent. She also realized that children handle divorce the same way parents do, and discovered her own sexuality.T, quest for t, sexuality, coparenting
Kathleen ChristensenKathleen Christensen was married for almost nine years and has been separated now for three. She has a successful co-parenting relationship with her ex, thanks to her "collaborative divorce."Kathleen Christensen, collaborative divorce, coparenting
Elsi DodgeElsi Dodge has been married and divorced twice. She was married for 14 years the first time and 11 the second. After almost 20 years on her own, Elsi is a published writer and has discovered a love of the road traveling in her RV.Elsi Dodge, RV, traveling after divorce, multiple divorces
Heather-MarieHeather-Marie was married for seven years shortly after she turned 18. She was not surprised by the divorce, but she says she wasn't ready for the process. Now Heather-Marie is the creator of My Divorce Shower, a concept that will allow divorce to be ritualized as it is in other cultures around the world.Heather-Marie, my divorce shower, easy divorces, getting married young
EmmaEmma was married only a year and says she "left her husband on her lunch break." But, Emma's divorce gave her the insight to do something she had been wanting to do for a long time: go home.Emma, moving home after divorce, parents, short marriages
Mama JMama J was married five and a half years before she found out her husband was having an affair. She learned the value of self-sufficiency, independence and talking through problems. All these lessons have kept her second marriage alive for almost 19 years. Mama J, children after divorce, multiple marriages, independence, first in the family to divorce, cheating
Student MamaStudent Mama was married for five and a half years and has a five year-old daughter. She is in her mid-twenties and close to finishing a bachelor's degree in business. Student Mama says divorce has taught her to be more independent.Student Mama, school after divorce, children while in school
Carolyn - Part I
Carolyn - Part II
Carolyn lived with her husband and her best friend for three years. Six months into their marriage, her husband started having an affair with her best friend. With two children, her friend's idea of trying to make the love triangle functional was tempting, but after being separated for 18 months and divorced for six, she has learned that it is best to be your own advocate.Carolyn, best friend, infidelity, cheating, advocate for yourself, lousy husband good dad
LaurenLauren has been divorced for two years now, after being married for five years and with her ex husband for 10. After the divorce, Lauren learned to respect herself and start paying attention to her needs and desires.Lauren, My life incomplete, respect yourself, divorce triggers
LoraLora was married for 18 years and divorced 9 years ago, when she was about 40. She says her most significant accomplishment since being divorced is becoming authentic.Lora, authentic, genuine, vision quest,
Divorce EncouragistThe Divorce Encouragist was married less than two years and says she wasn't disappointed to be getting a divorce even though they had been together five years. Her parents were divorced and her mom helped her through the process.Divorce Encouragist, encouragement, divorce coaching,
LA Single MamaLA Single Mama was married seven years and has been divorced six. Her ex panicked at the idea of being responsible for their newborn son and asked for a divorce. Rather than being upset, LA Single Mama says he is now a better dad than she expected and they have a successful coparenting relationship.LA single mama, children as the cause of divorce, better parent after divorce
PippiPippi never felt the chemistry in her marriage, even from the beginning. Her husband wanted them to be inseparable, like his own parents, but Pippi wanted her own life. She gradually built up to being self-sufficient financially, and then she made her move.Pippi, finances, self-sufficiency, independence, happiness, chemistry
LoriLori has three children with her ex, who is not yet her ex husband. They have been separated for two years but neither has as of yet begun divorce proceedings. Her ex has bipolar disorder, and this added an entirely new element to Lori's situation.Lori, bipolar, separated but not divorced
KristiKristi was not raised to believe in divorce. She had three children with her husband and she stayed in the marriage for four years after the little voice in her head told her she was no longer happy. After 18 years of marriage, she took the step. Her biggest goal now is teaching her children how to pick compatible partners, so they can avoid divorce themselves.Kristi, teach children to avoid divorce, not raised to believe in divorce, divorce coaching
Candace WalshCandace was married for seven years. Although she decided to follow her instincts and discover her sexuality, Candace says realizing she was a lesbian was not what ended her marriage.Candace Walsh, gay, lesbian, same-sex, sexuality
SaraSara was married at 18 for almost 10 years. After growing up in what she calls a dysfunctional household, she didn't want her children to feel what she had felt as a child. Sara, deserving to be happy, setting a good example for children, counseling, can the marriage be saved
VivianneVivianne was married for 11 years and has recently made her divorce official, even though she filed in 2006. For a long time her emotionally and physically abusive husband made her feel as if his tantrums were her fault. Finally she saw the truth of the matter and decided to put her children's safety ahead of her vows.Vivianne, abuse, emotional abuse, when to leave a marriage, domestic violence
AprilApril had left her husband, who she'd been with seven years, several times because of his drug problem, but always came back. When he spent literally the last dollar the family had, she knew it was time to go, for her sake and her children's. April, drugs, addiction, money, alcohol
MardellMardell wasn't married for the first time until she was 40, and right off the bat she knew it was a mistake. Her first husband was in debt and abusive, so after hanging in there long enough to have her son, Mardell escaped to Colorado and married again. Sadly, her second husband was also abusive and an alcoholic. Eventually her desperation is what gave Mardell strength.Mardell, desperation, abuse, domestic abuse, alcohol, addiction
Bucksome BoomerBuck$ome has been divorced for eighteen years and is celebrating fifteen years with marriage to her second husband. In her story she shares how her perspective of her divorce and her relationship with her ex has changed over time.Buck$some, hindsight, divorce perspective
SusanSusan was with her husband for twenty-two years and separated five years go. As of the time of the interview they hadn't filed for divorce and Susan was planning on waiting for another year so her daughter would no longer be a minor. At that point there would be no need for a legal parenting plan and she wouldn't have to be concerned about complying with a custody arrangement while protecting her children from the consequences of her husband's combat PTSD and brain injuries.Susan, PTSD, bi-polar, brain injury, co-dependency, long separation
DebbieDebbie was married for six years to the love of her life when she found our he was having an affair. That led to the discovery that he was a pedophile. They divorced and he committed suicide shortly thereafter. Their son was two when their marriage ended.Debbie, infidelity, pedophile, suicide, physical challenge
JenniJenni was married at twenty after a whirlwind romance only to find her husband emotionally controlling. She ended up having several affairs and spent time in a residential dual treatment center for sexual and substance addiction. After that, she decided it was time to end her marriage. She has two children who were seven and twelve at the time of divorce.Jenni, infidelity, sex addict, drug abuse, sexual assault, emotionally controlling.
KatrinaKatrina has been married for six years and is in the process of getting divorced. Hers is a story of when the whole world seems against you. She's battling mental illness, an episode of drug abuse and now a child custody battle for her two and half year old daughter. She's unemployed and having to represent herself in court. Katrina, mental illness, custody battle, unemployed.
SuzanneSuzanne was married for six years when she started to consider divorce. It seemed that her husband and father to her two-year-old son, just never had time for them.Suzanne, learning to cook, going back to work full-time, being self-sufficient, first in family to divorce
JuliaJulia was married for seven years when they split up. At the time their two children were just one and two. Although the divorce was initially her husband's wish, after he moved out Julia realized that being a single parent would be better than the married life she'd had.Julia, emotional abuse, going back to school, weight-loss surgery, child-custody battles
JudyJudy had been married for twenty-eight years when her husband left. She's convinced he was going through male menopause and had some depression. Since her divorce she's gained her special education teaching certificate, chaperoned a Girl Scout trip to Alaska and enjoys her activities with Becoming an Outdoors Woman none of which she'd have done if she'd stayed married.Judy, male menopause, long-term marriage, teaching certificate, Girl Scouts, travel
SwatiSwati had been married for almost eight years when she filed for divorce. At that point her husband started to harass her so badly, she ended up moving out in an hour and taking her two-year-old daughter with her. Now after seven years, Swati has found a new life partner through online dating, has remarried and is creating a happy blended family.Swati, harassment, facing your fears, online dating
Carol GreverCarol Grever had been married for over thirty years when her spouse came out as gay. Putting the anger behind her, Carol turned her devastating experience into a new life and new career, helping many others deal with the discovery that their spouse is gay.Carol Grever, gay spouse, writing a book
SueSue, who was married for three years, completely changed her relationship with money after her divorce. Sue also learned that divorce doesn't have to be a black hole--she began to feel more emotionally alive than ever.Sue, bankruptcy, finances, money after divorce, overdraft, budgeting, asserting yourself, child support, professional development, self-confidence, dating after divorce
MeganMegan was twenty-two and expecting when she got married. Although she and her husband went on to have a second child together, they ended their marriage after five years, both believing it was a mistake to get married because of a baby on the way. Megan, SAHM, got married because of pregnancy, expectations
AprilApril was with her partner for seven years although they didn't get married until they were seven months pregnant with their second child. The marriage ended less than three years later when April realized she couldn't fight her husband's drug addiction.April, drug addiction, absent father, college, out-of-state move
CarlosCarlos Phillips was married for seven years when he got divorced. He has two sons who were six and two at the time and he was there primary custodial parent for almost ten years.Carlos, custodial dad, forgiving yourself and your ex
NancyNancy and her husband had been married for about seventeen years when she discovered his secret sexual fetish. While that wasn't the cause of the end of their marriage, the lack of intimacy was. Nancy is forty-eight facing an uncertain future - unsure of how she's going to support herself and isolated from her family back in Brazil.Nancy, midlife divorce, sexual fetish, uncertain future
AntoniaAntonia was married at twenty-four and divorced at twenty-eight. She married for a second time at thirty-one and divorced just two years later when she she realized her second husband had the same drug abuse problems as her first. Now at thirty-nine she's learned to enjoy her own company and the living singly accepting that may mean never having children.Antonia, living singly, drug abuse, no children.
JenJen had been married about fourteen years when she realized her husband was a pathological liar with a serious gambling habit. When they separated, he had just been diagnosed with cancer. Jen worked so he had insurance coverage but by then they had lost everything, leaving Jen to rely on her parents for support. Jen, pathological liar, cancer, financial loss
TerryTerry and her husband were together for fifteen years when their marriage ended with Terry's discovery of her husband's infidelity with a friend. Terry has battled to overcome her won health problems, to accept her former friend as her ex's new wife and to become financially independent. Together they have two children who were eleven and nine at the time. Terry, infidelity, co-parenting, becoming healthy, financial independence
MollyMolly, aged 44, was with her husband for thirteen years and at the time of our interview, she'd been separated for four years. Her two children were aged three and five at the time. Molly resisted the divorce but was forced to accept it when her husband moved out. She then realized how stressful her marriage had been and began a new quest for a peaceful divorce.Molly, peaceful divorce, family nights, appreciating your ex. seeing life as better after divorce.
GraceWhen Grace's divorce was final, she had been married for over nineteen years. It was a very bitter divorce, one that continued in litigation for over five years after the divorce was final. The harassment from her ex led her to move to another state leaving her son to live with his father.Grace, harassment, litigation, infidelity, leaving a child, moving to another state
LisaLisa had struggled with a sexless marriage for twenty-two years, when she decided to end her marriage. Her husband, fearful that his secret was public knowledge, hounded Lisa until she'd lost her car, lost her job and moved to another state. Now, for the first time, she's truly in love and has reunited with her children.Lisa, sexless marriage, restraining order, losing everything, vindictive ex, alienating children
AndreaAndrea had been married for fourteen years when she discovered her husband was a crossdresser. It was the final straw after years of emotional abuse and non-commitment. What followed was an extremely bitter divorce until Andrea finally felt she was free.Andrea, crossdresser, abusive ex, custody battle, lifelong maintenance
IronSpineSallyIronSpineSally and her husband were married for four years although they'd dated for eight years prior to that. His sexual problems meant they'd never have the children she wanted and his addiction to pornography compounded her self-esteem issues. Fending for herself during his deployments, gave IronSpineSally the confidence to take charge of her life. Five months after her divorce she eloped with the love of her life and is now stepmom to three boys.IronSpineSally, sexual problems, pornography, military wife, infidelity, eloping.
Marjorie and also an update.Marjorie and her husband had been married for about six years when she told him she wanted a divorce. At his request, she agreed to wait a few months before filing but then found herself arrested for domestic violence and subject to a restraining order as a result of a situation contrived by her husband. Overnight she became homeless, penniless and even worse, had very restricted access to her daughter.Marjorie, domestic violence, restraining order, homeless, non-custodial parent.
Terry RadiganTerry and her husband had been married for twenty years when Terry found out he was having an affair. As a songwriter, Terry used her writing to work her way through her emotions and shared the songs on an album, The Breakdown of a Breakup.Terry Radigan, infidelity, isolation, self-identity
MichelleMichelle and her husband were together for twenty-one years, married for sixteen. They had two children who were aged fourteen and twelve when their marriage ended. Michelle feels that both she and her ex became better parents after divorce and for a while followed a nesting custody arrangement because they agreed it was best for their children. Michelle's ex started dating shortly after their separation and his new parent was the mother of a friend of their child's.Michelle, better parent after divorce, bulimia, nesting custody arrangement, ex dating the parent of your child's friend.
NancyNancy was married for twenty-one difficult years. It was a whirlwind romance and had she waited a couple more months she thinks she probably would not have gotten married. Her husband suffered from severe anxiety which led to many secrets. Nancy weighed staying in the marriage until her daughter was in college but ultimately ended the marriage while her daughter was in high school.Nancy, fear, anxiety, delaying divorce, moving back home.
SarahSarah's parents divorced some twenty-five years ago when she was about twelve. She shares her memories of how it felt as a child, how her parents communicated well with each other with regards to her upbringing and how, as a high school teacher she sees divorce affecting kids in her classroom today.Sarah, child of divorce, impacts at school, delaying divorce
AshleyAshley experienced her parents' divorce when she was fourteen and it came as relief. Ashley talks about adjusting at school, the challenge of a largely absent father and how her family reflects the complex structure of many of today's families.Ashley, child of divorce, divorce as a relief, absent father, complex family
Esther AdlerEsther Adler went from an abusive father to an abusive marriage. After fourteen years she realized she did have options and she ended the marriage. The battles with man still continue as he uses religion to alienate her from their children.Esther Adler, parental alienation, religion, abusive marriage.
Two Kids And a FishTwo Kids And a Fish was with her high school sweetheart for over twenty years. When she was facing a serious health scare however he was not concerned, he didn't even accompany her to any doctors visits. That was when Two Kids And a Fish realized she was done. It was time to end the marriage. After that, she came to understand just how abusive her husband had been not only to her but also to their eldest daughter.Two Kids And a Fish, domestic violence, health scare, protected address
RhodaRhoda was remarried in her forties after a whirlwind romance. Six years later the marriage was over and Rhoda faced financial ruin wrought by her ex. With the help of her parents and her faith in God she's rebuilt her life and a successful blogging business.Rhoda, bankruptcy, financial ruin, help from parents, faith, red flags, being happy
DonnaDonna and her husband got married after their son was born and they’ve been married now since 2005. They've been separated about eighteen months and their divorce is pending.
Like many women, Donna said it took her a while to understand that her husband’s behavior was abusive and it also took her a while to tell her parents and friends what was really going on.
Donna, domestic violence, absent dad, online divorce, maiden name
DebbiDebbi was married for thirteen years but for much of that time she and her husband only saw each other at weekends because of their work schedules. They never really moved from dating to a solid partnership. Debbi became increasingly dependent on alcohol and by the time their daughter was three, Debbi was an alcoholic. Debbi's story is about getting sober and staying sober and that meant ending her marriage.Debbi, alcoholism, facade, weekend marriage, keeping up appearances, absentee dad, coparenting
RMJRMJ and her husband were married for nine years and were divorced after a four-year separation. Both RMJ and her husband are Nigerian and today RMJ lives in another African country while he ex has returned to Nigeria. That means that he has little involvement in parenting their two children. RMJ's faith has guided her through her divorce even though she's the only openly-divorced person in her small church.RMJ, infidelity, faith, religion, absentee father, STD testing, HIV testing, divorce stigma.
ElizabethElizabeth had been married for 38 years when she divorced - she thought a separation would help them work out their differences; instead it convinced her husband he wanted to pursue a relationship with another woman he had been seeing. Elizabeth shares how devastating divorce can be for adult children and also her no-nonsense approach to dating that lead her to a wonderful new relationship and the best sex of her life.Elizabeth, long-term marriage, infidelity, alimony, adult children, dating after divorce
LucyLucy and her husband had the seemingly perfect marriage except that during their seven years of matrimony they rarely had sex. It was a very lonely place to be.Lucy, no kids, sexless marriage, learning to argue, physical challenge, becoming a stepmom
Sandy WeinerSandy Weiner was married for twenty-three years. Three of those years were spent getting divorced and seven of them were spent tolerating the marriage for the sake of their three children. Sandy was following the advice of an attorney friend, advice she now says was bad advice. Her children were aged 18, 16 and 13 when the divorce was final.Sandy Weiner, religion, parenting styles, reinvention, emotional affair.
KimberlyKimberly had been married for 18 years when her husband surprised her telling her he didn't love her anymore. They stayed together for a short while for the sake of the children but when he wouldn't take an active part in parenting, Kimberly asked him to leave.Kimberly, surprised by divorce, staying together for the kids, absent dad, successful parent
TinaTina Swithin was married for about seven and a half years and has now been divorced for about four years. Those four years have been marred by an on-going custody battle for her two girls to protect them from their father who Tina describes as a narcissist.Tina Swithin, narcissist, representing yourself in court, custody battle, getting remarried, deciding to divorce.
StaceyStacey and her husband were married for over twenty years with the decision to divorce taking many years. Their son was in high school when they divorced.Stacey, Al-Anon, depression, menopause, rebuilding a career, dating.
Donna FDonna and her husband were married for seven years and their daughter was just two years old when they divorced. A firm conviction that shuttling between two houses was not in her daughter's best interest, led Donna to move out-of-state and to be a Disneyland mom. She thought it would only be for a short while but instead it was ten years before her daughter came to live with her.Donna F, custody battle, out-of-state move, catalytic moment, vivid dream, Disneyland Mom, child's best interest
SuzySuzy and her husband were married for thirteen years. During those years there was almost no physical or emotional intimacy and that eventually took its toll on Suzy. Her worsening health forced her to face reality and decide that this was not the marriage she wanted. They were legally separated for two years before divorcing, taking that time to decide the next steps.Suzy, sexless marriage, faith, legal separation, Disneyland father, trusting yourself
MissyMissy and her husband were married for about thirteen years. When they divorced, Missy was 35 and had three children aged two, five and six. As Missy was dealing with her husband's repeated infidelity, she started to open up to her friends and family about the reality of her marriage. Their support and her religious faith helped her make the decision to end the marriage. Today, she's co-parenting with her ex and being step-mother to her second husband's two children.Missy, faith, infidelity, two homes, second marriage, accepting help, opening up.
CarolCarol and her husband were married for twenty-eight years and at the time of her divorce, her two boys were both in their twenties. About every seven years or so her husband would talk about divorce but ultimately it was Carol who decided that her marriage was not the marriage she wanted and it wasn't going to change.Carol Round, faith, separation, empty-nester, adult kids

Men’s Stories

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CarlosCarlos Phillips was married for seven years when he got divorced. He has two sons who were six and two at the time and he was there primary custodial parent for almost ten years.Carlos, custodial dad, forgiving yourself and your ex
INRIS'sINRIS and his wife divorced when their eldest child was in second grade and their youngest was about two years old. Their divorce was not the fiery, dramatic kind but rather the slow, deliberate untangling which in part enabled them to handle the legal process themselves.INRIS, pro se divorce, mediation, co-parenting, post-divorce family vacations
Kyle Bradford's storyKyle, also known as ChopperPapa was married for just under seven years. At the time of his divorce he had two children aged two and nine months. The hardest part of adapting to being a single dad was dealing with the reactions of other people.Kyle Bradford, ChopperPapa, single dad, dating too soon, remarriage, blending a family, rediscovering faith.

Children of Divorce

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SarahSarah's parents divorced some twenty-five years ago when she was about twelve. She shares her memories of how it felt as a child, how her parents communicated well with each other with regards to her upbringing and how, as a high school teacher she sees divorce affecting kids in her classroom today.Sarah, child of divorce, impacts at school, delaying divorce
AshleyAshley experienced her parents' divorce when she was fourteen and it came as relief. Ashley talks about adjusting at school, the challenge of a largely absent father and how her family reflects the complex structure of many of today's families.Ashley, child of divorce, divorce as a relief, absent father, complex family
Fiona McGlynnFiona McGlynn was 26 years old at the time of our interview. Her parents divorced when she was about eleven and her younger sister was about eight. She says her parents never made a big deal of their divorce and that helped her adjust. The conflict post-divorce was less than during the marriage and that came as a relief. It wasn't until recently that Fiona realized she'd reacted to that conflict by trying to be as perfect as she could and that meant she was very uncomfortable handling conflict.Fiona McGlynn, children's book, child of divorce, discipline, parenting team, parents' divorce, marital conflict, conflict avoidance