Comments on: Thriving after divorce http://www.sincemydivorce.com/thriving-after-divorce/ Divorce recovery for women Fri, 10 Feb 2012 09:13:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: SinceMyDivorce http://www.sincemydivorce.com/thriving-after-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-877 SinceMyDivorce Tue, 06 Apr 2010 02:38:03 +0000 http://sincemydivorce.com/?p=2749#comment-877 Marwa - I have been through several emotional ups and downs since my divorce was final and I do think it's perfectly normal. You are grieving for the loss of your marriage and for the person you loved and may still love. You're also working to find your new identity. Most of the women I've talked to recognize that they had some responsibility for the end of their marriage but no one's solely responsible. Do you have a good therapist or counselor you could talk to? I think if you could find someone who specializes in divorce from a woman's perspective it might help. Marwa – I have been through several emotional ups and downs since my divorce was final and I do think it's perfectly normal. You are grieving for the loss of your marriage and for the person you loved and may still love. You're also working to find your new identity. Most of the women I've talked to recognize that they had some responsibility for the end of their marriage but no one's solely responsible. Do you have a good therapist or counselor you could talk to? I think if you could find someone who specializes in divorce from a woman's perspective it might help.

]]> By: marwa http://www.sincemydivorce.com/thriving-after-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-876 marwa Mon, 05 Apr 2010 16:06:37 +0000 http://sincemydivorce.com/?p=2749#comment-876 is it normal that i am more sad today one year after signing my divorce papers than i was few months ago... i am scared, sad and i just do not know how to move on any suggestions? is it normal that i am more sad today one year after signing my divorce papers than i was few months ago… i am scared, sad and i just do not know how to move on any suggestions?

]]> By: marwa http://www.sincemydivorce.com/thriving-after-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-875 marwa Mon, 05 Apr 2010 15:53:19 +0000 http://sincemydivorce.com/?p=2749#comment-875 I have been divorced for a year. I am still very overwhelmed though .... i am depressed and my emotions are very unstable.. i have three children and i try really hard to be there for them all the time.i just feel very lonley and lost and for the past few months i have been blaming myself and my family for the divorce... i am so tired of feeling down.. i just do not know how to move on... any suggestiosn? I have been divorced for a year. I am still very overwhelmed though …. i am depressed and my emotions are very unstable.. i have three children and i try really hard to be there for them all the time.i just feel very lonley and lost and for the past few months i have been blaming myself and my family for the divorce… i am so tired of feeling down.. i just do not know how to move on… any suggestiosn?

]]> By: SinceMyDivorce http://www.sincemydivorce.com/thriving-after-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-874 SinceMyDivorce Tue, 23 Mar 2010 18:58:49 +0000 http://sincemydivorce.com/?p=2749#comment-874 I think what you say builds on Jen's comment - it's OK to cry, it's a human emotion and emotions need to be talked about. Must be a ton of good songs about crying - I'm going to start listening for them. Any suggestions? I think what you say builds on Jen's comment – it's OK to cry, it's a human emotion and emotions need to be talked about. Must be a ton of good songs about crying – I'm going to start listening for them. Any suggestions?

]]> By: SinceMyDivorce http://www.sincemydivorce.com/thriving-after-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-873 SinceMyDivorce Tue, 23 Mar 2010 18:51:23 +0000 http://sincemydivorce.com/?p=2749#comment-873 Hi Chandi - I know from your blog just how devastating your divorce was. It's great to hear that you've now seen a positive from the experience and I'd have to agree - I really had very little idea what it meant to go through divorce until I went through mine and started to talking about divorce to women. Hi Chandi – I know from your blog just how devastating your divorce was. It's great to hear that you've now seen a positive from the experience and I'd have to agree – I really had very little idea what it meant to go through divorce until I went through mine and started to talking about divorce to women.

]]> By: SinceMyDivorce http://www.sincemydivorce.com/thriving-after-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-872 SinceMyDivorce Tue, 23 Mar 2010 18:38:31 +0000 http://sincemydivorce.com/?p=2749#comment-872 Hi Jenn - I love your comment. That's such a powerful message you were conveying to your son - not only that he had the magic to cheer you up but also that the way to comfort someone who is crying is to physically hold them and not shy away. I wish you the best with the divorce proceedings - my two cents - take and deep breath and count to a hundred before you respond to anything. Don't let yourself feel pressured. Take the time you need to respond. Hi Jenn – I love your comment. That's such a powerful message you were conveying to your son – not only that he had the magic to cheer you up but also that the way to comfort someone who is crying is to physically hold them and not shy away. I wish you the best with the divorce proceedings – my two cents – take and deep breath and count to a hundred before you respond to anything. Don't let yourself feel pressured. Take the time you need to respond.

]]> By: Suzanne http://www.sincemydivorce.com/thriving-after-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-871 Suzanne Tue, 23 Mar 2010 17:35:40 +0000 http://sincemydivorce.com/?p=2749#comment-871 One of the greatest things I learned about being a single mom, was that crying in front of my children teaches them that I am human. I am human. They will one day be adults... that is my job as a mother is to raise a successful, well rounded, asset to society. I also want my children to look at me and say.. "I want to be like my mother, and she made sure that was an attainable goal" Bring on the tears! One of the greatest things I learned about being a single mom, was that crying in front of my children teaches them that I am human.

I am human.

They will one day be adults… that is my job as a mother is to raise a successful, well rounded, asset to society. I also want my children to look at me and say.. "I want to be like my mother, and she made sure that was an attainable goal"

Bring on the tears!

]]> By: Chandi http://www.sincemydivorce.com/thriving-after-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-870 Chandi Tue, 23 Mar 2010 17:29:25 +0000 http://sincemydivorce.com/?p=2749#comment-870 I have had cancer, a malignant tumor in my thyroid, which was not such a "bad" kind of cancer to have, so I have to clarify, I know there are way worse cancer cases than what I had, BUT in my experience, divorce was WORSE than having cancer. I have never been so put through the wringer emotionally and financially and never experienced so much anxiety as during the past two years of getting through my divorce. I had a double whammy of having some major medical problems at the same. (Not the cancer, that was over 20 years ago.) Clearly the divorce experience is different for everyone but in my case, I had no idea how devastating it would be. I can say, the only positive is that I know "GET" how devastating it can be, and I am WAY more empathetic now about that topic. My blog about getting through the challenges of my illnesses and my divorce: <a href="http://itailandreams.wordpress.com" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">http://itailandreams.wordpress.com</a> I have had cancer, a malignant tumor in my thyroid, which was not such a "bad" kind of cancer to have, so I have to clarify, I know there are way worse cancer cases than what I had, BUT in my experience, divorce was WORSE than having cancer. I have never been so put through the wringer emotionally and financially and never experienced so much anxiety as during the past two years of getting through my divorce. I had a double whammy of having some major medical problems at the same. (Not the cancer, that was over 20 years ago.)

Clearly the divorce experience is different for everyone but in my case, I had no idea how devastating it would be. I can say, the only positive is that I know "GET" how devastating it can be, and I am WAY more empathetic now about that topic. My blog about getting through the challenges of my illnesses and my divorce: http://itailandreams.wordpress.com

]]> By: jenn http://www.sincemydivorce.com/thriving-after-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-869 jenn Tue, 23 Mar 2010 02:09:34 +0000 http://sincemydivorce.com/?p=2749#comment-869 I cried a lot after my divorce. I tried very hard not to cry around my son, but I would be doing something as simple as cooking dinner and my eyes would well up with tears. Children are so perceptive, they know when something is not right. I never lied to my son and pretended that I was fine, I always told him "mommy is just a little sad...but you know what? Hugs from you always make me feel better!" It has almost been a year since my separation and my son and I are coping quite well, we'll see how things hold up through the divorce proceedings! I cried a lot after my divorce. I tried very hard not to cry around my son, but I would be doing something as simple as cooking dinner and my eyes would well up with tears. Children are so perceptive, they know when something is not right. I never lied to my son and pretended that I was fine, I always told him "mommy is just a little sad…but you know what? Hugs from you always make me feel better!"
It has almost been a year since my separation and my son and I are coping quite well, we'll see how things hold up through the divorce proceedings!

]]> By: SinceMyDivorce http://www.sincemydivorce.com/thriving-after-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-868 SinceMyDivorce Wed, 17 Mar 2010 23:59:53 +0000 http://sincemydivorce.com/?p=2749#comment-868 I remember my mom crying occasionally. I don't think I ever saw my father cry so I'm just not used to men crying. When I'm around a man who's crying I also find it awkward. I remember my mom crying occasionally. I don't think I ever saw my father cry so I'm just not used to men crying. When I'm around a man who's crying I also find it awkward.

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