The Wisdom of a Broken Heart – review and giveaway

Written on March 3, 2010 by
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The Wisdom of a Broken HeartOne of the perks of this blog is that I get to review books. When a book catches my eye and seems like it would be a good resource for people dealing with divorce or if one of my interviewees mentions it, I contact the publisher for a review copy.

The book I’ve just finished reading is The Wisdom of a Broken Heart by Susan Piver. The title immediately grabbed me – I think I’d just interviewed Carolyn (see Leap and the Net Will Appear series) and the heartache of her story of losing your husband to your best friend just kept playing in my head.

What Susan describes here is counter-intuitive for me but I totally buy into it and will be keeping her book on my bookshelf for future use :)

You can read the rest of my review in my review section.

Now for the fun part! I have two copies of this book to giveaway. All you have to do to be entered to win your own copy is to leave a comment on THIS post about what helped you mend your broken heart. It could be something that helped you then or even something you’ve learned since then.

- You get one entry for each comment you leave.

- You’ll also get an entry for each tweet you send about this giveaway. Be sure to leave a comment here to tell me you’ve tweeted.

- The giveaway will run through midnight (MT) Monday March 8.

- You must be a U.S. resident to win.

- I’ll be using random.org to select the winner.

Looking forward to reading the comments :)



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  • http://www.workeasy4lifebalance.com Jacque Small

    When I found my husband was leaving me for a friend that I had introduced into our group of friends I was devastated. I deeply loved my husband and I still love him although we have been apart for a year. In fact we have remained friends even though we don't have any children.

    I used 3 things to heal my wounded heart.
    1) Understanding what it was about him that I loved so much. I would want this again in my next relationship.
    2) Opening my heart up to love and loving the new person that he chose. You see love is inside of us. The more we feel love the more we love everything.
    3) I have learned some special techniques to bring past emotional experiences to completion. This allowed me to release the energy that causes repeated emotional reactions.

    As a result my wounded heart has healed very quickly.

    Jacque
    whttp://www.workeasy4lifebalance.com

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/SinceMyDivorce SinceMyDivorce

      Wow Jacque – it breaks my heart when I hear stories like yours. I admire your courage and bravery in loving his new partner. I'd love to hear more about the techniques you mentioned. Let me know if you're interested in guest posting :)

  • http://runningleap.wordpress.com Carolyn

    Sounds like an interesting read… Hmm. What helped me heal my broken heart? Lots of books and blogs about women dealing with similar issues helped a lot, and writing my own blog. Seriously, that helped immensely. The healing is a work in progress, though. :)

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/SinceMyDivorce SinceMyDivorce

      Hi Carolyn .. I wonder if at some point it changes from healing to growing?

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/Loris_LOLz Loris_LOLz

    Gosh, this is such a difficult question. So, what helped me mend my broken heart? I'm separated now and have been since July 2008, I don't know if it's laziness, lack of funds, or just plain being scared for how finances would be worked out, but for one of those reasons I have not pursued a divorce, but I know in my heart that it is over and I have known for a very long time. What has helped me mend are my 3 beautiful children who I am so blessed to have in my life. I also keep very busy doing things that 'I' love to do which is something that I never ever made room for in all the years of marriage. I never made room or time for me. Enjoying my children and finding myself are the two big factors that have helped me to heal and face each new wonderful day.

    I am going to tweet about your giveaway right now.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/SinceMyDivorce SinceMyDivorce

      Hi Lori – there are lots of times I've told myself that I cannot regret my marriage because otherwise I wouldn't have my sweetheart and my treasure – that's what I call my two children. And I think having them and trying to do what's best for them, has propelled me forward.

  • Marc

    For me, time has helped quite a bit. It has been nearly a year since my wife left me. I find support by reading other people's experiences and by keeping myself busy. I never imagined that after being together for nearly 30 years that our marriage would so quickly unravel. Knowing that other people can identify and empathize makes a tremendous difference to me.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/SinceMyDivorce SinceMyDivorce

      Hi Marc – I can only imagine what a huge adjustment it's been for you being single after 30 years of marriage. Just curious – have you come across lots of blogs by men who are going through divorce? How do women's reactions to divorce differ from men?

  • http://intensedebate.com/profiles/micheleb4 micheleb4

    Things that have helped me during, through and after my divorce:
    1) Prayer and reflection
    2) Journaling
    3) Letter writing – some sent, most were not
    4) Divorcecare devotional book
    5) On-line support groups
    6) Crying it out on the worst days. You can't let it get to built up! You may go crazy!
    7) Keep busy with lifes details

    This is what mostly has been getting me through. How about you??

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/SinceMyDivorce SinceMyDivorce

      Hi Michele, I replied to another comment that having my two children has helped me. I will say that ending my marriage didn't break my heart the way it was broken by a couple of guys when I was in my 20's :) The love I had in my marriage was a different type of love. I think also what has helped me has been recognizing what I contributed to the breakdown – my reluctance to confront some issues very early on, understanding why I was like that and accepting that I did the best I could.

  • http://tbdetermined.wordpress.com Jolene

    Blogging has helped me immensely, as has realizing that my divorce WAS for the best, and that my ex and I could remain friends. If we weren't able to remain friends post-divorce, the heartbreak would have felt worse, I think, in losing not only a husband but a best friend too. I am going to tweet this too!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/SinceMyDivorce SinceMyDivorce

      I think you've been fortunate to be able to stay friends with your ex … and I LOVE reading your blog.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/Loris_LOLz Loris_LOLz

    Wow, a whole group of people here to connect with and share thoughts. Years ago I used to smoke and for some reason I used to think that I was the only person in the world who smoked. In Colorado we can't smoke in public places, so I guess that's part of it. It's sort of the same for me being separated for so long, I feel like all of the hundreds of bloggers I have met so far are all so happily married and I am the only one who is raising 3 children and alone. Thanks so much for your bolg and thanks to all of the other commenters… I'm not alone at all. Thank you for that.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/SinceMyDivorce SinceMyDivorce

      Definitely not alone Loris! Thanks for commenting. Hope you'll be back :)

  • http://runpippirun.blogspot.com Pippi

    Mandy, great comments all around. -Pippi