Many women have shared how there was a single moment or incident when they knew their marriage was over, when they knew they had to leave. Here's IronSpineSally's moment: For me, it was a conversation that we had on the couch, where he told me he resented me for pretty much everything. I remember that things had been getting really volatile at home, and he just had a blow … [Read more...]
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Do You See Divorce As An Opportunity Or The End Of The World?
Do you see divorce as an opportunity or the end of the world? Divorce is always an opportunity but many people don't see it that way certainly when they first realize that it's likely and especially if they aren't the decision-maker. For the person who takes the lead on ending the marriage, they've concluded that life will be better outside the marriage. That doesn't mean … [Read more...]
Do You Know What It Takes To Leave An Abuser?
Leaving any marriage is hard. It's even harder when there's abuse. There are many day-to-day things we take for granted that survivors can't. It's easy not to understand what it takes to leave an abuser. For example, applying for your own credit card means mail to your home which might be intercepted by your abuser. Setting up a P.O. Box to avoid this still means mail to … [Read more...]
You Will Know When It Is Time To End Your Marriage
It may not be particularly helpful or constructive advice but you will know when it is time to end your marriage. Something will happen and it may not be significant to anyone else but to you it's a sign. It says, "I'm done." My current guest, Lois Tarter had been married for about 25 years when she got divorced. Her marriage ended gradually and it took Lois sometime before … [Read more...]
Divorce Is An Option
The vast majority of people I talk to work hard at their marriage. They respect their vows. They look for ways to resolve the challenges. Many of them held the view that, 'divorce is not an option.' Then something happened. In the moment of that something, they see for the first time that divorce may be a option. They start to question whether staying married is possible. … [Read more...]